Blog Update

I tried reopening comments on my blog and set them to close 5 days after a post. This completely eliminated all the spam I was receiving.

Now, I’m going to experiment with having comments on new posts open for 10 days.

If you like my post or want to say something about it, please leave a comment there. Sometimes people will send me an email with a comment about a post. Don’t do that. I don’t need more email and I’d much rather talk with you about my blog in my blog. Thanks!

Vintage Kink: Holy Shit

I’m going to take a little interpretive liberty with this one…because we can’t truly know the intent of people centuries ago.

So, back around 1330 this cathedral in Freiberg, Germany was finally completed, after about 200 years of construction.

Copyright Florian K (Wiki)

Story goes that one of the stonemasons didn’t get paid appropriately for his work and decided to get back at the city council member who was to blame. This is what he chose to do:

Copyright mjhaertlein (atlasobscura)

A gargoyle that “shits” rainwater to the ground below.

This is likely an act of revenge rather than kinky art but for toilet/brown fetishists it might be fun to imagine otherwise…

Tribute Increase

Effective January 1, 2021 I will be increasing my tribute to $300 per hour. This will affect all sessions up to four hours in length. Six- and eight-hour session will be unaffected. As usual, I will offer a discount for multiple hours.

This decision has nothing to do with the pandemic. I had been planning on raising it at the beginning of 2021 long before the COVID outbreak. In fact, knowing how difficult this time had been for people had me consider that maybe I should postpone, but it’s been 3 years since my last tribute increase, I’ve been behind the current national rate for a while now, and I have been seeing new Dommes with no private dungeon charging more than me, so I decided it was time.

Existing clients that I have seen at least 4 times between March of 2019 and March of 2020 will be grandmothered until June April 1, 2021.

Blog Update

A couple of things:

  1. I haven’t been updating this much because I’m honestly not motivated to. I have been putting up a pretty steady stream of content for over 5 years and have never really gotten much interaction. (Thank you to those who have regularly interacted!) So I’m left not knowing how many are actually reading and if this is really a good use of my time. Maybe once this awful, dreary time has passed I will feel inspired again.
  2. I have turned off comments for the time being. I’ve had an increasing amount of spam that I have to sort through and I don’t want to have to deal with it.

UPDATE: I have decided to try allowing comments on NEW posts for 5 days after publication. Since the spammers are usually going further back into my post history it might keep them from commenting.

Update on In-Person Sessions

Effective September 1st I will once again begin accepting select new clients. This means that I will be selective about who I accept as a new client at this time.

As with my existing clients, all new clients will be be required to pass additional health screening and wear a mask for the entirety of their visit. Don’t worry about how it may affect the scene. I will have you distracted by other things and you won’t be thinking about your mask.

For more information, including what activities are currently unavailable, please see this post.

I will continue all my other protocol as usual.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask them here!

Online Class Reformat

I’ve decided to change things a bit.

Instead of one course, I’m going to offer a “Kinky College” series:

BDSM 101: FOUNDATIONS will now become BDSM 201: PSYCHOLOGY.

BDSM 101: FOUNDATIONS will have a content change. New description:

This is no boring 101 class! Here you will learn the foundational elements of this thing we call “BDSM”, such as:

  • What exactly do we mean when we say “BDSM”? How is it different than “kink”?
  • Categories of play
  • What does it mean to be “lifestyle” or “professional”? Similarities and differences
  • Culture and Community: who, where, what, when, why

BDSM 201: PSYCHOLOGY will retain the same description and content:

This course will provide a rich and in-depth discussion of various psychological concepts fundamental to BDSM which are often confusing and misunderstood. This will provide a rock-solid foundation for genuine understanding and improved play and for beginners and experienced players alike. Some concepts include:

  • Understanding the difference between BDSM and abuse
  • Dominant/Top & submissive/bottom: how they differ from one another and why they are commonly confused
  • What is fetishism and how does it affect me
  • “Topping from the bottom” is real but it has nothing to do with topping
  • Fantasy or Reality: why you need to know where you’re at

I will also add two courses to the series:

BDSM 301: UNDERSTANDING AND NEGOTIATING YOURSELF

You’ve got a solid understanding of the psychology, but how do you fit in? In this course I will provide insight into figuring out your “Kink Personality” and how to effectively communicate that with whom you choose to play. Areas covered:

  • Figuring our your interests
  • Limits: The different types and how you can understand your own
  • Recognizing and developing your own playstyle
  • Negotiating your needs and desires into a scene

BDSM 401: SCENES

Now, you have all this information and you’re ready to play with someone, but you don’t know where to start! In this course I will help you get a better grasp on this process so you can feel confident going into — and coming out of — play. This includes:

  • What exactly is a “scene”?
  • Understanding how to conduct a scene that is right for you
  • Uh oh: How to recognize a problem and what to do about it
  • What is aftercare and why is it important

Unlike actual college, I will not make any of these a prerequisite for subsequent classes, however I do recommend taking the smaller numbered courses before the later ones because the content all ties in with each other and will be referenced throughout. Questions you may have on previous content may only be briefly addressed so as not to infringe on the current class.

For scheduling and to buy tickets, please visit my classes page.

N.B.: I will NOT be recording the classes. Instead, I will be repeating the series periodically.