Tribute Increase

Effective January 1, 2021 I will be increasing my tribute to $300 per hour. This will affect all sessions up to four hours in length. Six- and eight-hour session will be unaffected. As usual, I will offer a discount for multiple hours.

This decision has nothing to do with the pandemic. I had been planning on raising it at the beginning of 2021 long before the COVID outbreak. In fact, knowing how difficult this time had been for people had me consider that maybe I should postpone, but it’s been 3 years since my last tribute increase, I’ve been behind the current national rate for a while now, and I have been seeing new Dommes with no private dungeon charging more than me, so I decided it was time.

Existing clients that I have seen at least 4 times between March of 2019 and March of 2020 will be grandmothered until June 1, 2021.

Blog Update

A couple of things:

  1. I haven’t been updating this much because I’m honestly not motivated to. I have been putting up a pretty steady stream of content for over 5 years and have never really gotten much interaction. (Thank you to those who have regularly interacted!) So I’m left not knowing how many are actually reading and if this is really a good use of my time. Maybe once this awful, dreary time has passed I will feel inspired again.
  2. I have turned off comments for the time being. I’ve had an increasing amount of spam that I have to sort through and I don’t want to have to deal with it.

UPDATE: I have decided to try allowing comments on NEW posts for 5 days after publication. Since the spammers are usually going further back into my post history it might keep them from commenting.

Update on In-Person Sessions

Effective September 1st I will once again begin accepting select new clients. This means that I will be selective about who I accept as a new client at this time.

As with my existing clients, all new clients will be be required to pass additional health screening and wear a mask for the entirety of their visit. Don’t worry about how it may affect the scene. I will have you distracted by other things and you won’t be thinking about your mask.

For more information, including what activities are currently unavailable, please see this post.

I will continue all my other protocol as usual.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask them here!

Online Class Reformat

I’ve decided to change things a bit.

Instead of one course, I’m going to offer a “Kinky College” series:

BDSM 101: FOUNDATIONS will now become BDSM 201: PSYCHOLOGY.

BDSM 101: FOUNDATIONS will have a content change. New description:

This is no boring 101 class! Here you will learn the foundational elements of this thing we call “BDSM”, such as:

  • What exactly do we mean when we say “BDSM”? How is it different than “kink”?
  • Categories of play
  • What does it mean to be “lifestyle” or “professional”? Similarities and differences
  • Culture and Community: who, where, what, when, why

BDSM 201: PSYCHOLOGY will retain the same description and content:

This course will provide a rich and in-depth discussion of various psychological concepts fundamental to BDSM which are often confusing and misunderstood. This will provide a rock-solid foundation for genuine understanding and improved play and for beginners and experienced players alike. Some concepts include:

  • Understanding the difference between BDSM and abuse
  • Dominant/Top & submissive/bottom: how they differ from one another and why they are commonly confused
  • What is fetishism and how does it affect me
  • “Topping from the bottom” is real but it has nothing to do with topping
  • Fantasy or Reality: why you need to know where you’re at

I will also add two courses to the series:

BDSM 301: UNDERSTANDING AND NEGOTIATING YOURSELF

You’ve got a solid understanding of the psychology, but how do you fit in? In this course I will provide insight into figuring out your “Kink Personality” and how to effectively communicate that with whom you choose to play. Areas covered:

  • Figuring our your interests
  • Limits: The different types and how you can understand your own
  • Recognizing and developing your own playstyle
  • Negotiating your needs and desires into a scene

BDSM 401: SCENES

Now, you have all this information and you’re ready to play with someone, but you don’t know where to start! In this course I will help you get a better grasp on this process so you can feel confident going into — and coming out of — play. This includes:

  • What exactly is a “scene”?
  • Understanding how to conduct a scene that is right for you
  • Uh oh: How to recognize a problem and what to do about it
  • What is aftercare and why is it important

Unlike actual college, I will not make any of these a prerequisite for subsequent classes, however I do recommend taking the smaller numbered courses before the later ones because the content all ties in with each other and will be referenced throughout. Questions you may have on previous content may only be briefly addressed so as not to infringe on the current class.

For scheduling and to buy tickets, please visit my classes page.

N.B.: I will NOT be recording the classes. Instead, I will be repeating the series periodically.

Online Classes Rescheduled

Both of my classes have been rescheduled. This is due to low ticket sales.
I’m hoping that giving people more time and changing the time slightly might help.

New dates:

BDSM 101: FOUNDATIONS

Was: August 12th at 5pm EST

Now: August 26th at 4pm EST

HOW TO FIND THE DOMME OF YOUR DREAMS

Was: August 15th at 5pm EST

Now: August 29th at 4pm EST

You can still get a ticket through the “Buy Tickets” link on my classes page.

If in two weeks I still do not have sufficient sales then I will be postponing indefinitely. So, please, if you are interested in either of these classes, get your tickets now.

Wondering what my classes might be like? Here are some things people have said:

For more, please check my testimonials page.

Quarantine Update

I have been neglecting my blog and work in general. The truth is: I’m dealing with some depression and anxiety. This has primarily been brought on by our current situation and how it affects my ability to see my clients and meet my own needs, but also other issues which I won’t get into here.

I want to thank those who have booked online sessions, coaching, or pre-paid sessions during the quarantine. I sincerely appreciate it. Though I enjoy distance play with people, I don’t tend to devote a lot of time to developing that branch of my practice, so strongly do I prefer putting my hands on you and looking in your eyes. So, trying to adapt to these times in a way which feels authentic to who I am as a Domme (and while trying to manage this depression) hasn’t flowed as easily as I would like.

As anyone who has struggled with depression knows, your motivation can get completely pulled out from under you. Your mind says, “Do this. You WANT to do this.” But you just can’t make it happen. You feel what I can best describe as emotional paralysis. It’s a very odd and frustrating place to be. That’s what I have been coaching myself through. I feel a little light coming through the clouds, so hopefully you will see more coming from me soon.

In the meantime, I have begun allowing those who have seen me for in-person sessions within the last two years to book on a limited basis. Please see my previous blog post for more info.

Hope everyone is safe and well.

In-Person Session Update (Updated)

Update to In-Person Sessions During the Pandemic

I’ve decided that beginning Friday, May 22nd I will resume in-person sessions with select, existing clients. I am not booking with new clients at this time.

“Existing” means you’re vetted and have had an in-person session with me within the last two years.

“New” means you may or may not be vetted but have not yet had an in-person session with me. If this describes you, I ask you to wait until further notice.

Any existing client who wishes to schedule a session with me may email me with your preferred date, time, and session length, and must agree to a brief screening over the phone. If I determine that you may pose a risk I’m not comfortable taking, I will ask that we postpone scheduling until a later date.

I will not be taking a lot of sessions and will not be seeing any more than one person per day. I also will not be scheduling on consecutive days. This allows me adequate time to disinfect properly. I have always cleaned my dungeon and equipment to high standards, so I honestly don’t need to make a lot of adjustments there, but the space from my front door to the door of my dungeon will be stepped up.

I will be wearing a mask during the entirety of your visit and you must also agree to wear one as well. This is not only for the safety of me, you, and all my clients, but also our family, friends, and all those with whom we come into contact. Transmission rates without a mask are high. Since there are still infected people who are asymptomatic and passing it unknowingly, there is a good chance that eventually one person will come to me who is a carrier, and a good chance that I will get it and pass it to others (including a family member of mine who is high risk). Masks greatly reduce this chance.

There are some activities I will not be doing at this time:

  • oral play (anything that involves an exposed mouth)
  • spitting
  • consumption (including CEI)
  • vacbed
  • multiple parties

If you have any questions you may either ask them here, in comments, or email me privately.

Thank you and I look forward to seeing you soon!

Don’t forget: you can also schedule one-on-one chat or play over the phone, via text, or on cam. While it’s not an in-person session, it is 100% coronavirus risk free. 😉

[Updated to include more detail for those who are asking or wondering.]

Mistress Tissa’s FemDom Tuck-In (Updated)

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  • I removed “littles”, “bigs”, “boys” and “girls” because NiteFlirt would not publish my listing as they said it could infer age play and that is prohibited in their terms of service.
  • If you would like to do age play, you will have to contact me through my website to set something up outside of their interface.

April Opportunities

For the month of April I’m offering some options for time with me but with some reductions in tribute.

Pre-Pay an In-Person Session allows the full tribute for a future session to be paid up-front in exchange for a reduction. The longer the session, the larger the reduction. There is no limit to the amount of sessions you can pre-pay for.

There will be no expiration date on a pre-pay until our current social restrictions are lifted. Once they are, it is likely to be generous.

This offer is for vetted clients only. This means people I have already seen and are in good standing. It does not include new clients.

Payment must be sent via mail. Mailing details will be given upon request.

IM sessions can either be kinky or casual chat. This is for sessions during the month of April. Payment is electronic or via mail.

Coaching is not play. It is more like counseling. For more details about my areas of support, please see my coaching page. This is for sessions during the month of April. Payment is electronic or via mail.

Pro Dommes Business Consultations are for those who are existing or aspiring professional Dominants. The consult is done over the phone and is 1 hour in length. This is for consults during the month of April. Payment is sent electronically.

The rest of my protocol remains the same.