Come as you are

Contrary to what some of you might believe, I do not want you to be someone other than who you are when you come to session with Me.

This means I do not want you to pretend to be:

  • a slave
  • a submissive
  • into the things you think I want you to be into
  • not into the things you are actually into

The truth is: I want you to be YOU. It is YOU who I am interested in exploring our mutual interests with, not some imagined person you think I want. I am not pretending for you and I don’t want you to pretend for Me either. (And chances are very good I will know you’re pretending, anyway.)

Now, because I am a genuine Dominant, I do especially enjoy scenes with people who are either genuinely submissive or enjoy choosing a submissive role in play, but if that’s not you, then don’t try to pretend to be that. If you are a bottom and/or a fetishist looking for a service top and not power exchange then be honest with yourself and clear about that when requesting and negotiating a session. Sometimes this means we won’t be compatible. I’m okay with that and you should be, too.

When you try to be someone you’re not, you’re lying to yourself. When you lie to yourself, you will in variably lie to Me. This will be awkward for the both of us. For one, I won’t be able to really connect with you. When that happens, it’s likely you will probably leave our session feeling “off”. You may feel confused, angry, unsettled, embarrassed, ashamed, quite possibly like you cheated yourself, and ultimately you are likely to feel unfulfilled. The end result is not Me being happy with you fulfilling what you think I want, the end result is both you and I not feeling good.

So, please, BE YOURSELF.

But, Mistress Tissa, what if I’m new and aren’t sure who I am and what I’m into?” Or maybe, “Mistress, I’m not new but have found my experiences not to quite live up to what I hoped. Why not?” I’m happy to help. I can offer ideas and guidance as you sort through your thoughts and feelings. I have an educational and professional background in psychology, I also have a natural aptitude for understanding people and getting to what’s going on underneath.

So, if you’re not sure if you’re actually a submissive or maybe you’re a fetishist (or both), or you aren’t sure if you actually want to be a cuckold or if it might be best left as a fantasy, or you keep feeling the same uncomfortable feelings after sessions, and you would like to some figuring this out, I offer intelligent, insightful, and compassionate coaching by phone.

If you’re interested in this and would like to request a time to speak with Me, please visit My coaching page and follow the directions.

(If you want to read some reviews people I’ve spoken with have written, please visit My NiteFlirt “Chat with Mistress Tissa” page and click on the number beneath the yellow stars.)