Blog Update

I tried reopening comments on my blog and set them to close 5 days after a post. This completely eliminated all the spam I was receiving.

Now, I’m going to experiment with having comments on new posts open for 10 days.

If you like my post or want to say something about it, please leave a comment there. Sometimes people will send me an email with a comment about a post. Don’t do that. I don’t need more email and I’d much rather talk with you about my blog in my blog. Thanks!

Blog Update

A couple of things:

  1. I haven’t been updating this much because I’m honestly not motivated to. I have been putting up a pretty steady stream of content for over 5 years and have never really gotten much interaction. (Thank you to those who have regularly interacted!) So I’m left not knowing how many are actually reading and if this is really a good use of my time. Maybe once this awful, dreary time has passed I will feel inspired again.
  2. I have turned off comments for the time being. I’ve had an increasing amount of spam that I have to sort through and I don’t want to have to deal with it.

UPDATE: I have decided to try allowing comments on NEW posts for 5 days after publication. Since the spammers are usually going further back into my post history it might keep them from commenting.

Subscribing to BDSMlog

If you’re not aware, you can subscribe to my blog and have any posts I make emailed to you. They are sent once a day.

Look over in the right-hand column. There is a form at the top where you can enter the email address to where you’d like them sent. You will be sent an email to confirm your subscription. Nothing besides my posts will be sent to you.

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Everything internets is hard (said like a Valley Girl)

So, I’m trying to do many things here on the internet…and none are easy. Here are some of the things:

  1. Configure my blog to look the way I want it. This is not as easy as I think it should be. When you select a theme (template), they come in varying levels of customization. I have tried between 8 and 10 and none of them offer the level of customization I want. I cannot hand-code the whole thing. It’s far beyond my coding knowledge , which is almost entirely HTML with forgotten bits of CSS, JS, and PHP. I tried to do research on some of these themes; how to get them to do things and not do things and behave. Just trying to figure out ONE theme ALONE was like an hour of reading.
  2. Add a subscription service to my blog. I had one when it was hosted on’s servers. It was automatically included and flawless. Here? Out in Dot Org land? You must find a “plugin” for everything. After doing EVEN MORE reading, and seeing that Mailchimp is recommended, I go to install the plugin. *click click click* Why are there 8 options?? And none of them appear to be made by the software engineers associated with this plugin. This is just ONE little thing I’m trying to do, people. One thing in a sea of many other things I will have to do to just get my blog the way it was. (Even getting to this point of importing it here on this server while still having the rest of my site on a different server and then then configuring everything so I could have it up and running was tedious — and that was having someone at Orange help me literally every step of the way.)
  3. Move my site. As I plan to move from my previous host to a new one (censorship concerns and the sudden suspension of my site is my worry), I’m in the shitty position of having made a site I like but not being able to move it somewhere else. This is the major con of using Wix as a host. Sure, you get an outstanding, highly-intuitive interface, but the code remains hidden from you. This means I cannot simply take my pages and FTP them to a new server. It means I have to REBUILD MY ENTIRE G.D. SITE FROM SCRATCH. If I want to try to recreate what I have now, it will not only require doing every little thing you see on there again, but I may have to teach myself some things in order to do it. It may also mean teaching myself other things in order to teach myself some things in order to do it. The thought of this makes me want to drink. Up until my early 30s, I taught myself anything I did not know and wanted to learn. Now? Fuck this nonsense. Can I pay someone? I’ll watch you do it while I enjoy my drink.

These are some of the reasons why people may buy a case of wine, forego hygiene indefinitely, and grow to despise their lives.

Modern day web things feel overly complicated. There are an overwhelming amount of options. Interfaces are confusing. And everyone wants their product to create dependency.

I miss Geocities*.

*I kid. I never had a site on Geocities. I taught myself how to code and made them in Notepad.

Or maybe I could just do this?

Back after an almost two-month hiatus!

After WordPress so kindly suspended my site on October 30th (after saying they were okay with it AND taking my money for a premium package), I was faced with the task of not just finding any old host to throw it back up on, but one I felt would not censor me again.

I found that host and thanks to their excellent customer service am back up and blogging.

I’m going to be tweaking things over the next several weeks. For one, the appearance; so what you see is likely to change. If you see any missing photos or links, please comment so I can be made aware of them.

If you were subscribed to my blog, you may need to subscribe again. I can’t find any information on subscribers on the dashboard, and I haven’t had a chance to look that up and figure it out.

Thanks for reading!


I get traffic from all over the world, hundreds of hits a day, yet I receive very little interaction. Are some of you too shy? Afraid of being caught? In denial of your kinky interests? One of those plagiarizers?

If you see something you enjoy, feel free to like or comment on it. I enjoy dialogue with others — especially about sexy stuff.