Article: Kinky Sex Could Be the Secret to Your Success

“Many successful visionaries throughout history, from artists to scientists and even politicians, have had well-documented kinks and fetishes that affected how they operated in their daily lives.

A wave of recent research has confirmed this: If it’s something you desire in the first place, kinky sex can benefit you not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well. “Unconventional” sexual practices and fantasies, such as BDSM, group sex, or role play, have been shown to reduce psychological stress, improve mental health and can help with satisfying and communicative relationships. Kinky people have also been found to have higher self-worth than those who are too afraid or ashamed to pursue their fantasies

People who engage in BDSM and kink have been found to be happier, more conscientious and less neurotic than people who don’t engage in so-called “deviant” sex. “

More confirmation of what many of us have known all along: kink is healthy and has tangible benefits.

Full article here: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12231118/how-kinky-sex-leads-to-career-success/ (worth the read)

My time with Beth

I just saw Beth for the first time last night. She contacted me and said she really wanted to experience a session with a Dominatrix, and had thought about for a long time, but felt very apprehensive about it — so apprehensive that she felt she couldn’t even talk about it out loud.

While we were negotiating the scene, which was clearly challenging for her, she expressed some deeper issues, such as embarrassment, shame, and that she “spent a lifetime repressing feelings or thoughts that seemed ‘wrong'”.

She disclosed that she struggles with depression and a lot of anxiety. She explained that she’s let fear “rule” her her entire life and make decisions for her, and this has filled her with many regrets. Some of her fear was about physical contact and intimacy, and that she’s has created walls to protect herself, which simultaneously has created her own isolation from happiness and fulfillment.

But she said she is tired of it. She’s tired of being a “prisoner of her own brain”; she really wants to break through that. And she told me she thought I would be a good match for her because of my background and skills in psychology, and the testimonials that people had written about their experiences with me.

I suggested a coaching session before we met to discuss some of these deeper feelings and hopefully help to assuage her anxiety. She accepted and it allowed me to get to know her even more, which allowed me to tweak the session to benefit her even more.

I wanted it to be therapeutic, but also sexy. Well, here’s what she emailed me afterward:

I just got home,  exhausted,  a bit delirious and with a behind that is still stinging….I smiled the whole way home.  I truly do not know how to thank you for tonight.   It was the most incredible thing I have ever experienced,  and although I am still a bit overwhelmed and my head is spinning as I try to process this,  I am so profoundly grateful to you.  You really must have super powers,  because you managed to intimidate me,  get in my head and push,  while somehow managing to make me feel comfortable with you, and safe.  Trust does not come easily to me,  and although I don’t know why,  I do trust you. I left your house feeling so proud of myself ( a rarity!) And by the time I got home,  I was actually feeling hopeful,  for the first time in a very long time,  that I might be able to break thru these limits this time.   Hope is everything,  and I have no idea how to thank you for that.   

I hope I have your permission to request another session with you down the road,  because i really believe I have more work to do.   And, just typing this is making me bright red, but it was actually fun!

Thank you so much Mistress, for everything.”

Thank you, Beth! I had a fantastic time with you and I’m honored to have been a part of your journey. I hope we get to have another experience again soon!

Article: Can Bondage Play Reduce Anxiety?

“It feels like an opportunity to completely let go and to be completely present at the same time,” said Gorgone, a 22-year-old Shibari model who was tied up that night. “There’s a certain release from anxiety you get from it. Some people do it by drinking. They are looking for something that is going to take them away from themselves,” she said. With bondage, though, she said the high is also clearer and perceptions can become sharper — closer to a state of mindfulness than inebriation.

Although preliminary, there is growing scientific support for some of the BDSM community’s observations. In a study from 2013, researchers surveyed 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 “vanilla” people, asking them questions about their personality, relationships, attachment styles, and general well-being. Practitioners of bondage reported less neuroticism, a trait similar to anxiety, and more security in their relationships than people strictly into vanilla sex. Since this was a survey, it doesn’t show that BDSM activities caused these effects, but it does indicate that people who practice BDSM seem to be calmer and more comfortable in their relationship than people who don’t, lending some weight to the idea of a link.

Full article here: http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/02/can-bondage-reduce-anxiety.html

Mistress Tissa: Dominatrix

Philadelphia Dominatrix Mistress Tissa

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With beauty, intelligence, charm, strength of character, and a very palpable Alpha energy, I am a natural Dominatrix.

My ability to enchant and captivate you comes effortlessly to Me. I take great delight in seducing you to your knees, both literally and figuratively. You will feel My unique personality, style, and energy from the way I speak to the way I look in your eyes.

As a highly skilled practitioner of the Erotic Arts, I understand how to craft experiences which engage more than your most superficial parts. This means that what I offer is beyond mere entry-level enticement, but something with the kind of depth and awareness which not only inspires respect from you, but also in turn offers you the respect needed to know you can fully trust Me and lose yourself in our time together.

Having a special aptitude for the human mind and behavior, as well as an educational and professional background in psychology, I just might know you better than you know yourself. This may frighten you…but it also may facilitate your liberation. My brand of eroticism can be a simple and satisfying outlet for your fetishes, but it also has the potential to transform.

 

 

t2’s training continues

t2 contacted Me to ask Me if I was available to continue with his training.

Once he was before Me, I picked up where we left off.

I tested him in various ways.

He delighted Me with his excellent responses to many of My assessments.

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t2 is an outstanding submissive with a lot of potential.

After our session, he sent Me this:

“Mistress Tissa,
Thank You again for the session today. Your training is superb and Your insights into the lifestyle that You shared with me will be useful in my private life.
Best Regards,
t2″

Thank you, t2. I’m glad to hear this. The kind of kink which is practiced consciously and has the potential to transform us in broader, deeper levels is especially gratifying to Me.

McKink not served here

Have you had an experience which feels like you’re just gone through a fast food drive-through window? “How may I dominate you today, sir?” Where you provided your order to a “Dominant” and She delivered it up blandly, predictably, and with a feeling like She’s just there for the paycheck? Almost as if you’re in on some kind of BDSM conveyor belt?

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Sorry, no “McKink” is practiced here!

My approach is more like fine dining: quality ingredients, artisanally crafted, and with great attention to our experience. I am an ethical person and have high standards and like what I do to reflect that. I not only prefer to be authentic, sincere, and conscious in My practice, I’m unhappy if I’m not.

All sessions are thoughtfully considered to reflect our mutual interests & develop from our unique energetic chemistry. While I may make loose plans for our time together, to ensure both our needs get met, I don’t enjoy scripts. (This is why scripted scenes are a limit for Me.) I prefer to let the moment dictate what best fits the space. What determines that is how I react to you and how you react to Me.

What do I mean when I talk about “conscious in My practice”? I like to think of what I do as “conscious kink”. This isn’t just about going through the motions, it’s about awareness and acting deliberately. While you can certainly approach kink as just a place to get an itch scratched, it can also have an underlying meaning, value, and a potential for growth, whether I’ve got you tied up, pinned to the ground, am humiliating you, and am testing your limits with My cane. My desire is that you leave Me better than when you came to Me, and sessions with Me will reflect that desire. “McKink” is just delivering a “cheap”, cookie-cutter product without any concern for any of this.

So, why settle for “fast food” when you can get more?