Expressing Your Inner Femme

Are you aching to explore your inner femme? Or are a seasoned femme who loves to express this with a FemDom who genuinely enjoys it? L’Autel De La Femme is my signature approach to femme expression and play (aka “feminization”). This is one of my favorite activities and specialties. I have experience with those who are nervously trying it for the very first time to those who are seasoned femmes ready to get dressed for a night out on the town.

I’m an excellent match for those who wish to discover and explore this part of themselves with someone who is truly nonjudgmental and gets it. Whether you just want to put on a pair of panties or you want head-to-toe changes, you don’t just want someone who can dress you up, you want someone who actually understands the deeper psychological and philosophical aspects of gender identity and expression, is competent understanding your needs and desires, and knows how to effectively include them in a kinky scene that leaves you feeling sexy and energized.

My approach is unusual with FemDoms in that I do not use femme as something to humiliate and degrade. Instead, it is used to elevate, celebrate, and even to evolve one’s consciousness. It is used to help those who are guys, dudes, chaps, blokes, assigned male at birth (AMAB), butch men, butch women, non-binary, femme-reluctant and non-femmes discover and reclaim their often shamed, fragmented, and compartmentalized femme selves. This has been a signature aspect of my practice since I began.

I’m enthusiastically all-inclusive and welcome any sex, gender, sexuality, ethnicity, color, nationality, religion, body type, (dis)ability, and legal age.

I have many things in many sizes to transform you into the cute, pretty, beautiful, elegant, sexy, and/or slutty femme you are curious about, long to be, or already are! Including various wigs, lingerie, bras, garter belts, panties, stockings, breastforms & breastplates, corsets, petticoats, pumps & boots, and a full line of makeup for complexions ranging from pale to dark.

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I offer several session options. From partial to full transforms, a variety of kinky play before and once in you’re en femme; as well as shopping, dining, and dancing together. Yes, you are absolutely welcome and encouraged to go out en femme with me!

For more detail, please visit: https://www.mistresstissa.com/femme

Some testimonials from those with whom I have explored femme:

“The whole experience was great … I knew that I belonged there, that I belonged to You! In our session there was nothing fake or superficial, no stereotyped performance. You looked into my soul and took control and made me feel like an elegant, beautiful, and slutty woman without humiliation or degradation. The mood and atmosphere was emotional and intimate! The energy level made me shake with excitement even after I left Your dungeon. Everything pleasurable, positive and good!!! … It was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. … I’m so glad I contacted you.” – denise

“I feel safe there and that means a lot to me.” – samantha

“I loved our time together.  This was surely  the best BDSM experience I have ever had. You are erotically intoxicating to me and you are a virtuoso at your art. …I’m still a little high, feeling contemplative, unworried and at peace.”– slut michelle

“Thank You so much for yesterday. It was by far the best session I’ve had with you. … Thoroughly enjoyed everything … it’s the first time I dressed completely femme and for that I’m grateful. … Almost everything I experienced in the session yesterday was a first and that is only due to your expertise, creativity  and skill – as I don’t consider myself a novice. You were fantastic! – Kaladhar

“I loved my experience You brought out the real me – and it felt good.” – Heather

“i’m still in a state of awe about yesterday. First and foremost, thank You. … Amazingly enough, yesterday was one of the first times i really actually loved myself. i go through a ton of self-frustration because i never quite feel “myself,” … It’s like walking around always feeling like i just don’t fit. Yesterday, i felt like i fit. It was incredible.” – mvb

“Mistress, last night’s session changed my life. I am still reeling from it. I feel like a totally changed person today. Never in my wildest dreams have I ever imagined being taken like that. Its changed my whole outlook. I know I can’t ever go back to the way I was. I can’t thank you enough.” – f, lifestyle session

Kidnapped and turned into a cock-sucking whore

I was greeted kindly at the door and W(w)e sat down and talked.

Mistress Tissa is beautiful in every way but not to be trifled with, I assure you.

When I wasn’t looking, Mistress gagged and hooded me from behind.

She then dragged me to the basement, stripped me, force feminized me…

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and turned me into Her Strap-On sucking little lesbian whore House bitch.

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It went on for 3 hours.

If you are a true sub Mistress Tissa is a dream come true.  * * * * !!!

I loved kidnapping this useless dick-wielding male and forcing him to become a her — what he should have been all along! He went from a business-suit-wearing bore to a sexy cock-hungry whore! And I mean HUNGRY. Whether she was on her knees, her back, or straddled on My bitch bench, this rent-a-cunt couldn’t get enough She-cock in both of her holes!

Why I don’t do “feminization” as a form of humiliation

Many Dommes indicate “feminization” as an activity they offer. It’s popular. A lot of men are interested in it. Usually it’s cis men, but I have known trans men who enjoy it. Also, usually straight men, but sometimes queer, bi, or gay men, too. (I’m not talking about trans women. Trans women are women, not “men in dresses”.)

I enjoy and happily offer it to anyone who is interested. However, I don’t like to call it “feminization”, I prefer to call it “femme”*. Cultural implications aside, it sounds more elegant and, well, sexier.

Now, what I’ve noticed and find interesting about “feminization” is that it is usually fetishized and framed as an expression of humiliation.

Exactly how is it humiliating to be put in “women’s” clothing or lingerie?

If this were MaleDom I could understand this type of play, but FemDom? It makes no sense.

Why it’s even thought of as humiliating in the first place is because men are taught to feel emasculated by comparisons to women. So, if you dress like one? Well, shame on you. You’re not a real man; you’re a “sissy” and a “faggot”.

While I understand how this is erotic for some people, the basis for it is rooted in misogyny (and homophobia). You can’t be shamed for wearing something assigned to women unless there is something shameful about being a woman. So, when Dommes do this type of play, who are almost always femme themselves, it’s ironic.

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(Photo: Mikael Jansson. Graphic: Have a Gay Day, Facebook group.)

If a submissive tells Me they like to be humiliated, I ask them in what ways. If they say they like to be “feminized”, I tell them I’m not the Domme for them. I don’t even want to PRETEND I think it’s humiliating. Why would I when it’s how I love to dress Myself? It seems that if I went along with even the fantasy that putting a man in “women’s” clothing is embarrassing or damaging I would be insulting Myself in the process. That doesn’t seem very Dominant to Me.

Why do I do it, then? Because putting men in beautiful panties, garter belts, stockings, heels, sexy dresses, and makeup is fun and sexy. I like to do it because I find it genuinely enjoyable. Why should only women enjoy silky or lacy lingerie?

Also, I love blending butch and femme together. Like the sexy Pavel Petel below:

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(https://pavel-petel.tumblr.com/)

So, if you come to Me and want to do femme play, My goal is to to offer a space in which you can be yourself, explore or develop your femme and/or feminine side, feel sexy, be treated like a “woman” (if that’s what you want to experience), and most of all to feel good and have fun — not to try to embarrass you for it.

*“Femme”, for those who don’t know, is a concept that originates from queer communities and its intent is to respect “gender” variance. It’s complement is “butch”. Unlike heteronormative culture, these terms acknowledge that people can have particular bodies and sexual identities and also have a so-called “non-congruent” gender presentation. This means you can have a penis, identify as a male, and be “femme”. Likewise, you have a vagina, identify as female, and be “butch”. This doesn’t inherently say anything about your sexuality. Anyone can be “femme”, “butch”, a combination of both, and/or something else. Using “femme” instead of “feminization”, for me, acknowledges this cultural value and separates the activity from its misogynistic associations.