My Slut

Ready for my enjoyment 😈

My slut and I spent the day together. It allowed us to take our time and enjoy every moment. We had a lovely, sexy time.

Thank You so much for yesterday. It was by far the best session I’ve had with you. I enjoyed how deliberate and un-rushes the whole session was. … Thoroughly enjoyed everything about the session – it’s the first time I dressed completely femme and for that I’m grateful. … Almost everything I experienced in the session yesterday was a first and that is only due to your expertise, creativity  and skill – as I don’t consider myself a novice. You were fantastic! Thanks again for everything.” – Kaladhar

It’s always a pleasure to be served by you, Kaladhar!

What Happens When You Don’t Do Your Job

I gave Samantha an assignment.

She failed.

I decided she had to make up for it.

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I brought her to my secret office…

…where I tied her down and taught her a few lessons.

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Then, I bent her over her desk and hiked her slutty skirt up.

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After I was done with her, there was no mistaking who she worked for.

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I made her sign a contract that she will not disappoint me again.

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I think she’s learned her lesson.

Femme Exploration

If you’re a man who is interested in exploring your “feminine” or “femme” side you may feel embarrassed or ashamed. Though it’s common to feel this way, you don’t have to. You can release the fear or shame you carry about exploring yourself as a whole human being.

Why do you feel so embarrassed or ashamed? One reason stems from the way men are socialized. Men are taught to believe that comparisons to women — whether in the tone or cadence of their voice, body shape, clothing preference, or mannerisms —  are emasculating and ultimately an indicator of their lack of authenticity and value as a man and person. In short: if you are in any way like a woman, you are defective; you aren’t “man enough”.

I’m here to tell you: none of it is true. You have been lied to.

You may feel that the entirety of the construct of “male” doesn’t apply to you. Or maybe just some of it. You may feel that you’d prefer to act or dress differently. Even if only on special occasions. You might want to have different interests and hobbies. Express your emotions freely. But you feel trapped by the expectation that’s been created for you.

Know this: the template that men are assigned to is only someone’s idea about who they think you should be. And it is likely in some way rooted in their need to control the existence of others to compensate for the fears they have about their own. The great news? You don’t need to let someone else’s fears become yours too and rule your life.

So you think you’d like to explore your femme self but you have some apprehensions. You don’t know where to start. You’re afraid you might be judged. You feel like you might not relate to what you see other men do, so you think that maybe it’s not your thing.

If you would like to explore these parts of yourself with someone you can feel safe with, I welcome you. You are free to be who you are without fear that you will be mocked or judged. In fact, I explicitly state under femme/feminization on my interests page that, unlike the typical approach to “feminization”, I don’t do any femme play as a form of humiliation. Aside from my not seeing femme as anything to be degraded for, but as one way of being beautiful and sexy, I find it antithetical to Female Dominance.

I’m highly competent with this idea we call “gender” and the way in which it can be expressed. I have spent a lot of time both working with people who have unconventional ideas about their gender or don’t feel the identity they’ve been assigned applies to them, to having done a lot of thinking about the phenomenological and epistemological aspects of identity, including gender and sexuality, and how I personally feel about and relate to them.

My awareness extends from the commonly-understood constructs of “male”, “female”, “masculine”, “feminine”, “androgynous”, etc.; to the fusion of seemingly contradictory concepts like “boydyke” or “girlfag”; to gender not actually being a real thing.

If you see how others express their “feminine” or “femme” selves and you feel alienated, it’s important to know that “femme” is a range of expression. It doesn’t have to be done in stereotypical ways or with hyperfeminine clothing, as is commonly depicted in BDSM.

This means it doesn’t have to be:

  • You assuming a female persona. That is: men can wear lingerie, be sexy, be slutty, and NOT have to become “women” to do it. You can retain your identity as a male person and wear panties, stockings, bra, makeup, eyelashes, heels, etc. (Though it’s okay if you do want to be your “female” self.)
  • Include anything pink. Love red? White? Black? Blue? Gold? Your expression of femme can be any color you like.
  • Include anything frilly, lacey, with ribbons, or otherwise “cutesy”. This is what I mean by “hyperfeminine”. It sort of like taking stereotypically girly things and turning it up to 13. The effect is you looking like a doll or child or wedding cake. Again, if you genuinely like this, wonderful, but it’s not necessarily what femme looks or feels like to everyone. (In fact, it doesn’t for the vast majority of femme/female-identified people.)
  • A “full transformation”. Though some people want to spend hours transforming their appearance from head to toe, others just want to put on lipstick or panties or heels.

Here’s some images that depict a range of femme expression by men (or at least people who were likely assigned male at birth):

Expressing yourself in a femme way also doesn’t mean:

  • You’re confused about your identity as a man
  • You’re a “sissy”
  • You’re really a woman
  • You’re gay (panties or heels don’t make you gay, they make you pretty)
  • You’re “weak”
  • You deserve ridicule

How you explore your femme side can be as lighthearted or as deep as you want it to be. It can be the entire focus of our session or it can be almost a “non-issue”, like your hair or eye color. This means your femme expression can range from highly eroticized (you sexy slut in your pretty panties and garter belt) to devoid of intentional eroticism (you’re wearing panties, sure, but this is really about me tying you down until you can’t move a muscle).

Whatever feels good, I’d love to facilitate an experience for you!

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pauletta serves Me all day

I hadn’t seen pauletta in a couple of years — and it was time to change that.

After agreeing that it would be fantastic for her to serve all day long, she hopped on a plane to Philly.

First, she had to prove herself worthy to serve by cleaning My floors.

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I think you missed a spot, bitch…

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She then graduated to serving My feet. (Which I enjoyed so much that I neglected to take any photographs.)

pauletta then had the privilege of taking Me to a lovely dinner.

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Once we returned, I demanded that pauletta strip and then restrained her on the cross.

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See how she thrusts her ass out for Me? Further, pauletta, further…show Me how much you ache for it…

pauletta had asked for the honor of being whipped by Me. Specifically, she had never been whipped hard and wanted to know what it was like.

After giving her a taste, it was time for one to remember…

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she shuddered and clung to the cross. I smiled.

I then moved her to My bench. It was time to have her truly earn her place.

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…and that she did.

A short excerpt from pauletta:

O/our session allowed me to let go of my ego! It was so much fun!!

You were so gracious, and generous, and fun last night.

… I can’t thank You enough.

Thank you, pauletta! What a lovely day I had with you!

 

sub d dressed and marked

sub d brought some sexy clothes to wear for Me.

After trying on some different items, he put on this tight, little dress that was so short his balls hung below the hem line. LOL!

I then tied him down.

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Next, I slid up his skirt to expose…

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…a lovely canvas for Me to leave My mark on.

After various implements, I asked him if he’d been whipped before.

“No, Mistress.”

“Do you think you can take a whip for Me?”

“Yes, Mistress.”

I opted for My mini bullwhip.

I first went lightly.

Then, a little harder.

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I was impressed at how much he was able to take for his first time!

He also brought Me this lovely bottle of wine:

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Later that evening, he sent Me an email:

“Thank you for your time tonight! Things were great as the last time! Loved your outfit and shoes. You are beautiful and gorgeous! Glad I met you. You really put time and effort in our sessions.”

Thank you, sub d!

My Fetishes V: Smoking

I have a fetish for smoking, also called “capnolagnia“. (Not to be confused with coprolagnia, which is the fetish for feces.) I have had this fetish for a long time. Possibly since I was a child, though I didn’t first try a cigarette until I was a teenager.

I remember seeing this photo of Madonna when I was in high school and being very drawn to it. I found it and Her so incredibly sexy. I saw Myself in Her. This blend of feminine and masculine energy. Maybe a bit of the Leather Daddy, too. 😉

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(photo: Herb Ritts)

So why don’t I offer smoking play?

I stopped smoking! (My last cigarette was in November of 2011.)

At that time, it felt like something I wanted to do. I had smoked on and off for 18 years and My body would let Me know it wasn’t happy by getting sick. A doctor told Me I was a prime candidate for more serious problems. I already knew this.

For the most part, I really enjoyed it, though.

…positioning one between two fingers, bringing it to slightly parted lips, the flick of the match or lighter while pulling in that first drag, a French inhale (so sexy), then rings, a perfect accompaniment to coffee and conversation…

I do miss that. But My body is happier without them.

I have considered vaping in sessions, but I’m not sure it would have the same effect. Also, from what I’ve read, they are not any less safe — if not worse.

If only someone would make a safe cigarette…

More time with subP

I always look forward to My time with subP. Our scenes feel very much about exploring the heart of kink, rather than the fantasy of kink, if that makes sense.

Each phase is a warm interplay between our very complementary energies.

I confidently control and She confidently yields.

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(One of our favorite ways to relax: tight bondage.)

I am always impressed by her level of trust because with each moan and sigh and “yes, Mistress”, I feel her genuine surrender to My will.

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(I cut her panties.)

Our three hours were over far too quickly. I felt like I could have gone another three.

She sent Me this the next day:

“The session You crafted was wonderful.  I so appreciate the care You showed and the way You took me places I have very rarely been.  I feel blessed to be permitted to serve You, a genuine Dominant Woman, a consummate professional and a truly nice person.  I will look forward to the next time I can see You.”

Thank you, subP!