Tired of ho-hum experiences?
I’m full of surprises.
Tired of ho-hum experiences?
I’m full of surprises.
As a part of this time of gratitude, I’d like to thank all the subs and sluts who have come to me over the year, despite the concerns people have about their risk for contracting something. (Which no one reported as having happened, by the way.)
In this post, I’d like to spotlight two special submissives: slave john…
…and Monkey Dick
Since I’ve welcomed them both into Temenos, over 6 years ago for slave john and over 5 years ago for Monkey Dick, we have had many, many sessions in that time, and I still absolutely love and look forward to playing with them both.
slave john: On top of his generosity in the dungeon — giving himself over to me physically, mentally, emotionally — he has been so generous with me on the outside. Always giving me thoughtful gifts that brighten my day.
A message he sent me after our last session, reflecting on how I’m special to him:
“…you really get me high.You get into my brain and make me confused,in a wonderful way.My other sessions [had] a lot of hands on. They were very good but not a lot of substance.Your sessions are blinding.I literally see flashes of light at times in our sessions.You take me higher mentally than any other Dom I have ever seen.Thank You!!!!! … Thank you very much for seeing me and taking me on mini vacations to outerspace”
Thank you, slave john. You are a treasured sub and I’m grateful you’re my pig.
Monkey Dick: He delights me with his openness to any new CBT or bondage device or predicament on him, and his willingness to take what I give. He’s also extremely reliable, punctual and well mannered.
Some of my favorite messages from him:
“You really understand what I was asking for. The level of control you exerted over me was great! … I feel like a broke through to a new level of submission/power exchange. It was incredible!!! Thank you!!”
It was an absolutely great session! …with a skilled CBT sadist, cannot wait till our next session!!!
Thank you for an outstanding session. … What a great way to end the year!”
Thank you, Monkey Dick. You are a treasured sub and I’m grateful you’re the CBT masochist to my CBT sadist.
I put Monkey Dick in my metal spreader device and forced him onto his back.
Now rendered helpless, his ass is mine.
With his cock, balls,and ass exposed to me, I gave him a delicious flogging.
Then added a little predicament into the mix.
While I was having my fun with him, I noticed the shadow of my earring on his ass:
(I should get that made into a metal brand)
Monkey Dick: “Thanks for the great session. … I really like the bondages you put me in … I was surprised how much I enjoyed the flogging hits … It was great! … The hard hits while in the predicament tie were intense and absolutely great!!!“
These are one of my favorite pair of heels.
My toenail polish is midnight blue.
If you’re very good and obey me, I may allow you to kiss them.
She came to me wanting to be a better femme.
After showing her some techniques, I wanted to enforce my lessons.
Sometimes a girl needs a little discipline.
I gave Samantha an assignment.
I decided she had to make up for it.
I brought her to my secret office…
…where I tied her down and taught her a few lessons.
Then, I bent her over her desk and hiked her slutty skirt up.
After I was done with her, there was no mistaking who she worked for.
I made her sign a contract that she will not disappoint me again.
I think she’s learned her lesson.
(Copyright Fleischer, circa 1920s?)
If you’re a man who is interested in exploring your “feminine” or “femme” side you may feel embarrassed or ashamed. Though it’s common to feel this way, you don’t have to. You can release the fear or shame you carry about exploring yourself as a whole human being.
Why do you feel so embarrassed or ashamed? One reason stems from the way men are socialized. Men are taught to believe that comparisons to women — whether in the tone or cadence of their voice, body shape, clothing preference, or mannerisms — are emasculating and ultimately an indicator of their lack of authenticity and value as a man and person. In short: if you are in any way like a woman, you are defective; you aren’t “man enough”.
I’m here to tell you: none of it is true. You have been lied to.
You may feel that the entirety of the construct of “male” doesn’t apply to you. Or maybe just some of it. You may feel that you’d prefer to act or dress differently. Even if only on special occasions. You might want to have different interests and hobbies. Express your emotions freely. But you feel trapped by the expectation that’s been created for you.
Know this: the template that men are assigned to is only someone’s idea about who they think you should be. And it is likely in some way rooted in their need to control the existence of others to compensate for the fears they have about their own. The great news? You don’t need to let someone else’s fears become yours too and rule your life.
So you think you’d like to explore your femme self but you have some apprehensions. You don’t know where to start. You’re afraid you might be judged. You feel like you might not relate to what you see other men do, so you think that maybe it’s not your thing.
If you would like to explore these parts of yourself with someone you can feel safe with, I welcome you. You are free to be who you are without fear that you will be mocked or judged. In fact, I explicitly state under femme/feminization on my interests page that, unlike the typical approach to “feminization”, I don’t do any femme play as a form of humiliation. Aside from my not seeing femme as anything to be degraded for, but as one way of being beautiful and sexy, I find it antithetical to Female Dominance.
I’m highly competent with this idea we call “gender” and the way in which it can be expressed. I have spent a lot of time both working with people who have unconventional ideas about their gender or don’t feel the identity they’ve been assigned applies to them, to having done a lot of thinking about the phenomenological and epistemological aspects of identity, including gender and sexuality, and how I personally feel about and relate to them.
My awareness extends from the commonly-understood constructs of “male”, “female”, “masculine”, “feminine”, “androgynous”, etc.; to the fusion of seemingly contradictory concepts like “boydyke” or “girlfag”; to gender not actually being a real thing.
If you see how others express their “feminine” or “femme” selves and you feel alienated, it’s important to know that “femme” is a range of expression. It doesn’t have to be done in stereotypical ways or with hyperfeminine clothing, as is commonly depicted in BDSM.
This means it doesn’t have to be:
Here’s some images that depict a range of femme expression by men (or at least people who were likely assigned male at birth):
Expressing yourself in a femme way also doesn’t mean:
How you explore your femme side can be as lighthearted or as deep as you want it to be. It can be the entire focus of our session or it can be almost a “non-issue”, like your hair or eye color. This means your femme expression can range from highly eroticized (you sexy slut in your pretty panties and garter belt) to devoid of intentional eroticism (you’re wearing panties, sure, but this is really about me tying you down until you can’t move a muscle).
Whatever feels good, I’d love to facilitate an experience for you!
beth sent me these for Prez Day:
(there’s an explanation and joke in there that I’ll refrain from sharing)
When I put these on my wishlist, I had no idea how much pressure they would apply; they could be wimpy or strong. But they looked different than any of my other clamps and so I thought I’d take a chance.
HOLY SHIT. I believe they are THE most intense clamps in my approximately 15-20 pair collection.
Thank you, beth!
Then, slave john sent this thoughtful card and gift for V-Day…
Thank you, slave john!
Then, three pairs of shoes from footboy d…
This awesome retro pair:
…which, unfortunately, are too small. (I sent them back to get a different size.)
Then, these sexy pair:
I especially liked them because of the fishnet (which I don’t have on any shoe in my 100+ collection)
Here they are on my feet:
And then, finally, these gorgeous pair:
A peek on them on my feet:
Thank you, footboy d!