My Slut

Ready for my enjoyment 😈

My slut and I spent the day together. It allowed us to take our time and enjoy every moment. We had a lovely, sexy time.

Thank You so much for yesterday. It was by far the best session I’ve had with you. I enjoyed how deliberate and un-rushes the whole session was. … Thoroughly enjoyed everything about the session – it’s the first time I dressed completely femme and for that I’m grateful. … Almost everything I experienced in the session yesterday was a first and that is only due to your expertise, creativity  and skill – as I don’t consider myself a novice. You were fantastic! Thanks again for everything.” – Kaladhar

It’s always a pleasure to be served by you, Kaladhar!

Testimonial from Todd

I recently met and had a session with a new player that I truly enjoyed. He said he’d been wanting to try this since he was a teenager. I was delighted he chose me for his first experience.

I love introducing people to BDSM. And I feel honored when I am able to do so. I’m skilled at helping people figure out what might work for them and crafting something at their level, while creating an environment in which people feel sexy but also safe.

When we began, the combination of nerves and adrenaline had him trembling (which is not uncommon). I helped him relax, and once he let go, I quickly followed. I floated into Domspace and off we went.

Todd had quite a few things he wanted to experience. Some things he’d tried a bit of, some things he hadn’t, but I was able to include everything he mentioned — and I had a great time doing it. Afterward, he said, “That was amazing!”

The next day, he sent this to me in an email:

Dear Mistress Tissa,

I wanted to thank you for our session yesterday it was everything I thought it would be and more. You made me feel very comfortable before and during the session which was important because I was very nervous before meeting you. The environment you created not only made me feel comfortable but it was also liberating for me to talk about my fetish openly and finally have a chance to explore it with you. I believe the experience will also have a long term effect on me because I feel I am more willing to accept this as a part of who I am rather than feeling ashamed.

I hope to see you soon.

Thank you again

Todd”

It was really gratifying for me to read this. While I definitely enjoy and appreciate scenes that are just about being hot and sexy, it’s when I can help someone feel more comfortable with and accept some aspect(s) of themselves — even learn to love themselves a little more — that my work is most rewarding. Helping people accept themselves is sacred work.

Thank you, Todd! Hope to see you again soon!

Testimonial from james

I had a very erotic session with james, which was over far too quickly for My liking. I was getting lost in creating a particular experience for him and really enjoying Myself. So much that I lost track of time and went over. Imagine My dismay when I took a glance at the time, it was up, and he appeared to be lost in space. I wasn’t ready to bring him back. (I wouldn’t have if he didn’t have to go back to work…)

Afterward, he wrote this to Me:

“Mistress, i don’t know if i can put into words recapping today’s session. i need to try so please bare with me if i am all over the place.

i was uncertain of where You were going with today’s session when i first arrived a few minutes late. You wanted to go over my soft and hard limits so in my head i thought You might use them. i was wrong. Being a little scattered brained the past few days with work and life in general, i really was looking forward to this session. … i [am] completely honest in [that] it is a joy to serve You Mistress Tissa.

You instructed me to the table to lay on my back. Watching you prepare the ropes had me in awe. Your hands took over and before i knew it i was hog tied and completely exposed. You slowly started your magic on me and just took me to a subspace i haven’t experienced in many years. Thank You.

Every aspect of the session was amazing. i am glad You allowed me to serve You. It is an honor Mistress Tissa.

Until the next session … keep being Amazing.”

Good to know the feeling was mutual!

Thank you, james. I look forward to our next experience!

Testimonial from Beth

Beth wrote this lovely testimonial about her experience with Me on Max Fisch:

“i am a complete novice to all of this. Have had long held “dirty little secret” of being excited and fascinated by tickling that i never revealed to anyone before, and so had never had considerable real time experience. Have also struggled with anxiety, personal space / intimacy issues most of my life, and really wanted to try something to push past all my self imposed boundaries. i finally decided to try and schedule a 1 hr session with Mistress Tissa, to finally experience this long held fantasy, a ‘bucket list’ item. i completed her comprehensive application and followed through with the required phone call interview. i was beyond nervous and could barely speak coherently, but Mistress guided me through the phone conversation, suggesting the addition of spanking to the session to mix things up. i had never even thought about that, have always been so focused on tickling, but for some reason, i agreed, and we scheduled a session. Before the session, i sent her an email explaining my nervousness and some things that had come up for me since our last phone call. She suggested a pre session coaching phone call, to help me be better prepared for the experience. When i arrived for the session, i was shaking and nervous and barely able to speak. Mistress was unbelievably kind and talked me through my nerves before we transitioned down to her dungeon. Mistress managed to establish very clearly Her Dominance, strength, and control of the situation. And although i was unbelievably nervous, bashful and intimidated, She also made me feel safe and protected. The one hour session flew by, and in spite of myself, i had managed to let go, at least partly, and experience it. When i left, i knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that i wanted to go back again. i could not believe how incredible i felt afterward, how much She had gotten inside my head and pushed me, it was incredible. i knew i had to go back, at least one more time, to make sure it wasn’t some kind of fluke. i had another phone coaching session with Her before the second session, to discuss my initial experience and talk about the next.

i have had now had the privilege of two sessions with Mistress Tissa, and have just scheduled my third. It was no fluke. my second session was 2 hrs, and She again exceeded all my wildest expectations, clearing my head, quieting the noise, and forcing me into the moment. i left that session with my head spinning and feeling better than i had in weeks.

i plan on continuing to session with Mistress Tissa as i continue to work on pushing through boundaries and getting closer to being my authentic self. i did not expect to care so much about what She thought or even really considered that i would want to serve Her. But when She told me i did well at the end of the session, i was ecstatic that i had pleased her.
i realized i do want to serve her, and give up control to her, to regain control in my life. Mistress is so intuitive, so good at what She does, that She has brought out interests i didn’t even know i had. i am convinced that continued sessions with her will be a life transforming experience. And unbelievably fun and exciting too. i am in awe of her strength, intelligence, uncanny intuition and her high ethical standards. She is an intimidating force to be reckoned with in all the right ways. Don’t walk, RUN and request a session with Mistress Tissa right away!”

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Testimonial from Luke

“First of all, let me say I was so happy to be back in Your presence!  You are as delightful, elegant, and gracious a hostess as ever.

And devious.  This session was absolutely unique and fantastic!  Everything was unexpected, … You played with some fetishes I didn’t even know I had … You played with my sense of reality were otherworldly.  

The good news for me is, You ALWAYS know where to go next.  Every time I think You’ve plunged me as low as I can go, You find some new way to wring out the last vestiges of pride and self-respect that might be hiding in the corners of my mind.  This was complete debasement.  It was terribly humiliating.  By which I mean greatly humiliating.  By which I mean awesomely humiliating.  And after all of that, my…having the privilege of kissing Your perfect, fetish-inducing feet was the final irony.  

(I will take this opportunity to lodge a formal protest regarding the beauty of Your feet. I will repeat to my death that I am NOT a foot fetishist!!!! …but [sigh] I think I’m…uhh… starting to understand. Dammit!)

In summary, I just want to thank You again for the magical, sublime (yet very REAL) experiences that you provide.  My senses are left tingling, and I’m left shaking my head in awe of what has just happened.  Sessioning with You is a privilege unlike any other.”

Thank you, Luke! You are an absolute delight to session with. I can’t wait for our next adventure!

And thank you for your generous gift!

Mistress Tissa and the Internet troll

Mistress Tissa is a what?? Did you read something about Me being a “man”, “scammer”, “cheater” and “homewrecker” who is spreading STDs?

(UPDATES are at the bottom of this entry.)

I seem to have a pretty big fan at the moment.

Someone is deeply obsessed with Me and is spending an AWFUL LOT of time going around to a dizzying number websites trying to smear Me.

Some of the many websites where you will see this person’s canon of work:

cheaterreport.com
datingpsychos.com
shesahomewrecker.com
pissedconsumer.com
stdcarriersexposed.com
stdcarriersdatabase.com
cheatersandbastards.com
cheaterdirectory.com
exposehomewreckers.com
blacklistreport.com
badboyreports.com
badbizreport.is
scamboard.com

I believe all of the above sites are owned by the same person who runs “TheDirty.com”, a site known for its unregulated, trashy “stories”. This makes everything posted on it suspect, because without any regulation, it’s the perfect home for any anonymous person to make up anything at any time.

It seems these posts echo the same basic story, which this person has posted over and over and over in a feverish attempt to make Me look like an awful person. (If you search for them, please don’t click on the links.)

Additionally, they have stolen several of My photos and posted them to some of these sites. I guess this is supposed to add credibility? Intimidate Me? Create additional instances of their activity which can be traced and verified?

I was first made known of this person because they filled out the session application on My site. They made up something about wanting to session with Me when they “visited the US” but changed their mind after they read some of this stuff. They included links to websites and told Me I should be “ashamed” of Myself for this thing they say I did.

Then, they sent Me a taunting email letting Me know that I have a penis and that I gave them herpes, and included more links to some websites so I could read even more about this.

They tried to use My email address to subscribe Me to a couple of blogs where they discuss My having STDs and whatnot.

Obviously, all of this activity is the same lonely and disturbed person.

If you search for My name you will see the fruits of their labor. You will see them say they’re an experienced player of “20 years” and then make the following claims that I’m:

  • “Trans” with a dick. Sorry to disappoint, but I was born with a vagina.  It seems they are confused about this. In the entry they created for Me at “shesahomewrecker.com”, someone calls them out for first saying I was trans with a penis and then claiming I had a strap-on. So, apparently, they aren’t quite sure about their own story.
  • An escort. I know some of you would love if I was an escort, but I’m not. I’m a Dominatrix.
  • Sporting fake 34C tits. LOL! Not only are My tits home-grown, they’re much bigger.
  • Infected with STDs, specifically “anal herpes”, which I am spreading to people. Not sure how this would happen since (1) I’m not positive for HSV2, the virus that causes genital herpes, (2) as stated, I don’t have sex with My clients, and (3) I clean the shit out of everything and use barriers to prevent spreading any bacterial, fungal, or viral infections that someone might have. (Check My FAQ question “How do you clean your dungeon?” for more info on what preventative measures I take and which pathogens My cleaner kills.)
  • A “cheater”, “psycho”, “fraud”, “scammer”, and “homewrecker”. Did I forget anything?
  • Guilty of “ruining [their] life”.

My goodness! Basically, they’re accusing Me of being the OPPOSITE of who I actually am.

I’m really impressed with how truly dedicated they seem to be by foregoing their own life in the hope of trying to screw with Mine. It’s SO MUCH WORK!

To do this can only mean their feelings are really, really hurt. And these hurt feelings have them in full-on retaliation mode. I’m trying to imagine what it would take for Me to be in that kind of place emotionally and psychologically. To spend HOURS — DAYS — of My life to do something like this to someone else.

Who could it be? Some possibilities:

  • Someone to whom I denied a session. I do this when I don’t think we were a good match and don’t want them to waste their money, or because they were very rude or seemed emotionally unstable. This “rejection” hurt them so badly they are blinded by anger as they repeatedly lash out against Me and desperately seek affirmation from anyone who’ll “listen” about what a horrible person they want everyone to believe I am.
  • Some guy’s wife/girlfriend/ex. She found him looking at the websites or/corresponding with/sessioning with a Dominatrix (maybe Me) and now She’s going to get her revenge–on the wrong person. It’s common for people like Me to be blamed for marriage problems. The truth is: I’m not responsible for people’s choices to do thing outside of their marriage. Most of the time I am unaware of the relationship status of those with whom I session. I know some are married, some are in open marriages, and some are single. I don’t pry or police this because, in a professional context, it’s inappropriate and not My responsibility to do so.
  • Another Domme who believes I am a serious threat. I hate to say this, but the truth is that some Dommes are not very nice or stable people. A few of the most desperate might do all sorts of things to come out on top: lying, cheating, spreading rumors, etc. I mean, what a great way to try to get rid of your competition than to come up with a tabloid type story to get people to stop paying attention to one Domme and hopefully direct their attention to you instead? And to use classic fearmongering tactics to get others to believe that another Domme is a dangerous fraud who’s going to “ruin [your] life”? Obviously, THAT’S the Domme you need to watch out for, not Me.
  • Someone who didn’t like something I said on Twitter or Fetlife.  I like to address the sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, or otherwise hateful garbage I encounter. And I’m pretty passionate about it. (Sue Me.) For some in very fragile emotional states, this would be reason enough to pursue Me.
  • A career bully. Amazingly enough, this what some people do for a living. They find targets and engage in criminal activity for personal gain.
  • A random person who has personal beef with people who fit his/her trauma profile. For example: someone cheated on him/her (a spouse), gave them an STD, and “ruined [their] life”, so now they’re going to go around and harass women they imagine are like the woman who hurt them. People like this live their lives in perpetual states of revenge. It how some folx try to process their trauma.
  • Someone who cannot accept their desires and projects the resulting self-loathing onto others.  That is: in his/her mind he/she is a righteous, pure person who thinks Dominatrices are immoral and do bad things, or perhaps more generally, they dislike people who do things of which they do not approve.  In actuality, they have a deep desire to be with a Dominatrix and experience the kinds of things We do but because they do not accept this about themselves, they project the hatred they feel for this desire onto people, like Me, who exhibit the self-acceptance they wish they could. The more anger and disgust he/she feels toward themselves for what he/she secretly wants to do, the more anger and disgust he/she directs at others for what they openly do.  These people often invoke things like a deity (e.g God, Allah), a sacred text (e.g. the Bible, al-Quran,), a condemning philosophy (e.g. moralism, damnation), their own fears (e.g. STDs, the law, ruination), etc, to justify and buttress their angry, obsessive, abusive, and/or often hypocritical behavior and distract themselves from their own truth. This is fascinating behavior that humans commonly engage in.

…whichever it is, the person has My email, which I don’t publish. So they either obtained them by some dishonest way or they’re not a stranger. Ahem.

Now, let’s consider their story from a logical standpoint.

“I’ve been doing this for 20 years”

If this really was someone I had seen for a session and who had 20+ years of experience in the scene, that narrows it down to about 10 of My clients. (Yes, I know who has that much experience because long-time players love to talk about how long they’ve been in the scene.) All but one of those clients have visited Me more than once. The one who didn’t was a perfect gentlemen and said he enjoyed our session and mentioned the possibility of doing doubles with another Domme. The rest have all said things like, “you’re amazing”, or “I loved our session”, or “you’re one of the best Dominatrices I’ve ever been with” (check out My testimonials if you want to read those reviews). Would that happen if I was really a fraud, infecting people with pathogens?

“She gave me the worst session of my life and herpes and ruined my family and stuff.”

Actual disgruntled clients don’t tend to repeatedly email and harass — especially if they were doing something behind their wife’s back! When people are leading secret lives, I PROMISE you they DO NOT want to stir ANY shit pot.

If you were unhappy with your doctor or plumber or someone you had cheated on your wife with, would you repeatedly email and provide them with links to endless websites in which you have posted dozens of “reviews” where you taunt them and detail this horrible treatment you say they gave you and how awful you think they are? No. You either discuss it with them (mature), leave a review and find another person to do business with (typical), and/or simply get on with your life (healthy). This continuous barrage of hostile contact is a psycho-emotional tactic to create fear in and manipulate the target. It’s a form of terrorism. When done through electronic-only channels, it’s what we call “cyberbullying”. This kind of activity can get you arrested, fined, and even jailed.

How have My actual clients behaved when less than happy with their session?

To be totally honest, this doesn’t happen often. I’m good at what I do and I really listen to My clients, so sessions with Me tend to be enjoyed by both of us. The couple of times a client told Me they weren’t totally happy with a session, we discovered it was due to miscommunication. It was either due to Me not understanding something or them not effectively explaining what they were looking for. So, we talked about it and made adjustments if they decided they wanted to session with Me again. In a handful of other instances in which a client didn’t say anything but I knew it didn’t quite work, it was because we just didn’t have chemistry. No big deal. It’s just how life works and it happens to everyone.

“Mistress Tissa is trans and really a man and has a dick!”

First of all, I love when people try to use trans women or the false equivalency of “really being a guy” or having a penis as an insult. Because apparently these are all very horrible things?  I have had several trans female friends and they aren’t horrible at all. Neither is being a man or having a penis — but it sure is telling when someone tries to use that to humiliate a person that way. I mean, do they think men and penises are shameful or something?

Anyway, this person is right. I have a dick. Here it is:

MistressTissa_FierceGoddess

(Actually, this is but one in My rather large collection of dicks.)

Anyway, mystery person, I’m really sorry if I or someone else hurt you so badly that it sent you into this destructive downward spiral where you’d direct so much energy lashing out like this, but I’d much rather we discuss it like adults.

I’m a very honest, mature individual who prides Myself on My professionalism and integrity. I’m sure My clients would be happy to verify this. You can see for yourself if you choose to deal with this constructively. Feel free to email Me and we can talk. I have an educational and professional background in psychology (it’s one of My superpowers, actually), so maybe I can give you a little counseling about whatever trauma you may have experienced. I just ask that you not continue to hide behind an anonymous proxy and free emailers that block your IP. That just looks, well, pretty much like you’re lying and you know it and that’s why you have to hide. I know it’s you anyway. And I know you like to keep looking at My website — especially My pics. 😉

However, if you prefer to continue using your time this way, I’d like to thank you for all the attention and free advertising. You’re directing some traffic to My site and people are spending time reading about Me and the things I offer, such as My love for what I do and My offering a clean, confidential space for people to safely explore their identity and sexuality. Not only might this generate more business for Me (some have mentioned that for someone to go to these lengths to tarnish My reputation I must be very good), but I’ve also gained allies. Both people who have themselves been targeted in a similar fashion and those who generally hate bullies and are ready to give their support.

So, while you may feel a little sense of accomplishment as some people may initially wonder if I’m as terrible as you are trying to make people believe I am, once they read about Me, My reviews, maybe listen to My interview, speak with Me on the phone, and hopefully session with Me, they will see your story could never be true.

Yours truly,

Mistress Tissa

mistresstissa.com

MARCH 2018 UPDATE: The person who has been targeting Me has also been targeting multiple other Dommes in Philly (and some outside of Philly). We all know who it is: another Philadelphia Domme. Watch yourselves, ladies and gentlemen.

APRIL 2018 UPDATE:  She has been at it again in the past few months. She has written a story about Me being drunk during a session and stealing people’s money. If you do a search for other Philly Dommes you will see she has copied and pasted this story and simply changed the name of the Domme each time. She includes other details she makes up to frighten people. She has also posted it for herself to look less guilty, so you can’t use the process of elimination to figure out who it is. Just know it’s only more lies from a very ill person.

JULY 2018: Apparently this Domme is being sued by someone else for, guess what? Harassment and defamation.

AUGUST 2018 UPDATE: This article includes a woman who was targeted on a couple of the same sites that I have been targeted on:

https://gizmodo.com/when-a-stranger-decides-to-destroy-your-life-1827546385

While My life is certainly not “destroyed”, it’s just more pieces of someone else’s broken life that people like Me have to pick up. Problem is that these sites are purposefully made so removing the pieces are very difficult, if not impossible. This is what these kinds of broken people bank on. What they don’t bank on is that they will be found out.