Welcoming Nimagras

Recently, I brought Nimagras on his first adventure with me. He indicated that he had wanted to contact me for a long time but didn’t feel he was ready to submit to me — until now.

Nima is an experienced player. He had a lot to say about what he enjoyed and didn’t, and presented a level of self-awareness that I appreciate. However, in my typical fashion, probed him further in our pre-session conversation (almost twice what I allotted!) which revealed “things…that never crossed my mind”.

When he came for his session, our conversation flowed, but once we descended into my dungeon I perceived some reticence. I usually see such things as a challenge — which I gladly accept. 😉

Afterward, we were both spent.

The day after he wrote this to me:

“I left enveloped in a womb-like warmth, physically and mentally exhausted. I awoke pleasantly numb and famished.

I have a pair of day-after measures which have yet to fail.

1. It’s a great session if I felt safe enough to drop my guard, to give into the experience, and to GET OUT OF MY OWN WAY. It means that the walls enveloped us and that I trusted you to take care of everything. It means I did not have a care in the world because you were taking care of everything, and all I had to do was enjoy what you produced. It means it was a symbiotic relationship where we both got something. It’s akin to mental marriage for a few hours.

2. It’s said that a starving man will pay anything for a steak, but he has no interest in a second steak, even if it’s free. It’s a great session if I walk out so satisfied that I could not conceivably continue playing, even for free!

Together, we hit home runs on both. I’m certain I have never had a first session where both litmus tests were positive. That success is a testament to your ability to let me enjoy the roller coaster.”

Thank you, Nima. If I were to say anything, other than to thank you for your trust, it would be that while I created the roller coaster, you were the one who allowed yourself to enjoy it.

He then sent this follow-up message:

“It occurred to me last night that on a daily basis you produce such experiences to fulfill each client’s hopes and expectations. I’m awed at the mental and physical toll put upon you. Plus, you willingly carry the huge responsibility of guiding each client safely and successfully through their experience. 


I knew being a pro is hard work. Until this week, I did not have an appreciation for just how much you give of yourself. Saying thank you seems insufficient, but I sincerely thank you for putting forth such effort on the behalf of your clients.”

I appreciate this. You’re right: this is hard work. And the more you put yourself into it, the more exhausting it is — but also the more rewarding.

UPDATE: Nima sent me this a few days later:

“Still mellow and warm inside. Better than drugs. 


You have the touch.”

I’ve heard this before. 😉

Until next time…

Mistress Tissa

Send Me a Text!

Now you can text me via NiteFlirt!

Go to my page: https://www.niteflirt.com/Mistress%20Tissa#

Then, the listing under “Mistress Tissa offers chat” click on “chat now”.

You pay 99 cents to send and my reply is free.

You can send a text any time you desire. I will reply as soon as I can. Those sent between 6pm and midnight EST are most likely receive a reply right away.

You can ask questions about BDSM/kink, receive counsel and support about BDSM/kink and relationships, we can discuss our day or hobbies, or you can just say hi. If you show yourself to be a good submissive, you may receive a task.

IMPORTANT: Do not use text for:

  • scheduling in-person sessions (this is against their TOS and can get us both banned)
  • cancelling in-person sessions (same as above)
  • for scenes or roleplay

Mistress Tissa’s Dix Flags

Welcome, thrill-seekers!

Step right up into my sleep sack, where I will fully strap you in so you can’t move a muscle (for safety reasons, of course)…

…but I’ll leave your tiny dick out so I can hurt it. And the thrill is — there is nothing you can do about it!

A very popular attraction is our very own “The Iron Mistress”:

Sometimes, at Dix Flags, “accidents” happen…

Now it’s time for your balls to take a spin on the Rubber Flogger! Fast, slow, hard, or soft — you never know what’s next!

Our last stop is the whirling tails of the Double Devil! Ouch, that’s gotta hurt!

Come back and offer your body up to be my amusement park again soon!

Obey Mistress Tissa

If you were here, I would strip you of your clothes and force you to your knees.

Looking down at you, I would remind you that you you are owned by My masterful mind, My beautiful face, My gorgeous tits, My fantastic ass, My delectable feet, and My Alpha essence.

As you look up at Me, towering above you, you would nod, mouth slightly agape, and mumble, “Yes, Mistress…”

“I see that tiny cock of yours twitching.”

you reflexively look down.

SLAP!

My hand strikes your face.

“Keep your eyes on Me, slave!”

you tremble and whisper, “Yes, Mistress. I’m sorry, Mistress…”

Now that I have you on your knees, what are you going to lay at my feet, slut?”

Masks have a lot of roleplay potential

You’re innocently walking down a dank and dimly lit alley when suddenly your sight goes dark as a hood is forced over your head. You’re shoved around and, by sound of your shoes echoing off the walls, into some concrete structure.

You’re forced into a seated position. Your hood is removed and, with a fearful glance around the room, you find yourself in some kind of torture chamber.

You eyes meet mine and…

…and you see the delight of a huntress than has just captured her prey.

“My newest victim,” I whisper.

“I hope you don’t have anyone waiting for you at home because I’m going to be keeping you here for a long, long time…”

The Word “Mistress”

When encountering Dominatrices you will see many of us use the title “Mistress”. While some of us love it, some feel quite differently, believing it is somehow insulting to a woman, her role and value. I want to clear that up.

Mistress is the femme version of Master. It was first used around the 14th century to denote a woman who rules in some way and has power. It is thought to have originated from the Middle English “maistresse”, which stemmed from the Anglo-French “mestresse”, which is the feminine of “mestre” which means “master”. (“Maîtresse” is the modern French derivative.)

As you can see below, this is and has been its primary meaning. The definition of a mistress as an “other woman” came much, much later.

Source

In BDSM terminology, though the word technically has a more specific meaning of a femme assuming the M role in an M/s dynamic, as opposed to a D/s dynamic, it is extensively and loosely self-assigned by women who are professional Dommes and switches, even if they are not engaging in that form of power exchange with their play partners.

Some Dommes don’t like and use the term because they believe it implies they’re somehow subservient to the man or a “side chick”. This is understandable given how it has been used as a pejorative term in modern culture. However, if a woman has many men coming to her, married or not, sometimes doing so at their own peril, how is she subservient? How is she not the one with power? Perhaps the “other woman” meaning is in fact more a reflection of the original definition of a woman who “possesses, own, or controls” than some are inclined to believe. 😉

Training

Interested in receiving training from an authentic Mistress and professional Dominatrix?

I offer personalized training for individuals and couples in a wide variety of activities for submissives, slaves, bottoms, and/or fetishists. I typically do not train Dominants except in the case of a couple where the Dominant would like coaching from another Dominant about training their submissive. In these cases, the training must occur with both parties present. (The couple can be of any sex, gender, or sexual orientation.)

Knowing what kind of training is appropriate for you requires knowing what you are trying to accomplish. To put it simply:

If you want to learn how to be submissive, then you want submissive training.

If you want to learn how to be of service, then you want slave training.

If you want to learn how to experience an activity but do not want power exchange, then you want bottom training.

If it’s really about your specific fetishes around “training” rather than the actuality of what it looks like, you want fetishized or fantasy training.

MistressTissa_Training

Here, my submissive is receiving punishment with his training.

Also important is understanding the “mood” you would like for your training. The mood can dramatically change the feeling. I can create training sessions which are fun and laid back all the way to strict and sadistic. Please note: I may not necessarily offer any combination of type of training and mood you are looking for.

I’m a natural educator and am adept in many activities, but I’m especially well suited for those wishing to be trained in:

MistressTissa_SubmissionAuthentic Submission. This involves the incorporation of my formal studies in psychology and philosophy (and spirituality, when mutually desired) to teach you what genuine submission is and how to find, express, and/or hone it within yourself. This can be sexy, challenging, fun, educational, and powerful. (Psst…it’s not really about just being on your knees.)

MistressTissa_SlaveBakesAuthentic Slavery. Like submissive training, I use my knowledge and skills in psychology and philosophy (and, again, any mutual interests in spirituality) to teach you what genuine slavery is and how to provide it. Long-term slaves will be trained in understanding the Path of Service, including self-awareness and self-improvement. slaves may also work toward self-actualization.

Femme Training. “Femme” is a distinct concept from “female”. I do not approach femme training assuming that you are or want to be female. You can identify as male, female, or something else and be trained to be femme. Training can include only dress, including how to best dress for your  version of femme, to the inclusion of makeup, mannerisms, and speaking. The most serious femmes can also train in the psychology of femme, femme integration, and femme as a tool for healing “toxic masculinity”.  Note: I do not offer femme training as a form of humiliation.

MistressTissa_SlutTrainingSlut Training. In my world, sluts are good things, and my approach to training reflects that. How, specifically, your training occurs depends on whether you’re a sub, slave, or fetishist; but regardless, you will learn to express your glorious inner slut. You do not have to assume a female persona to engage in this type of training. Men are and can be sluts, too!

 

 

If you would like to explore training with me, whether for one session, a handful of sessions, or over a long period of time, please complete the request form on my contact page. Be sure to include details about the type of training you wish to receive. If you omit the details and just ask for “training”, I will assume that you are coming to me as a slave, have no ego needs, and you would like me to 100% choose how I train you.

If you are interested in training but are not sure which is appropriate for you and your interests, I can help pinpoint what is likely the best fit for you. I can do this is two ways:

1. If you’re not certain you want to schedule a session, request a coaching session only.

2. If you know you’re interested in scheduling a session with me, then I recommend an extended session consultation. Please complete my session request form and indicate that you would like an extended consultation.