Femme Exploration

If you’re a man who is interested in exploring your “feminine” or “femme” side you may feel embarrassed or ashamed. Though it’s common to feel this way, you don’t have to. You can release the fear or shame you carry about exploring yourself as a whole human being.

Why do you feel so embarrassed or ashamed? One reason stems from the way men are socialized. Men are taught to believe that comparisons to women — whether in the tone or cadence of their voice, body shape, clothing preference, or mannerisms —  are emasculating and ultimately an indicator of their lack of authenticity and value as a man and person. In short: if you are in any way like a woman, you are defective; you aren’t “man enough”.

I’m here to tell you: none of it is true. You have been lied to.

You may feel that the entirety of the construct of “male” doesn’t apply to you. Or maybe just some of it. You may feel that you’d prefer to act or dress differently. Even if only on special occasions. You might want to have different interests and hobbies. Express your emotions freely. But you feel trapped by the expectation that’s been created for you.

Know this: the template that men are assigned to is only someone’s idea about who they think you should be. And it is likely in some way rooted in their need to control the existence of others to compensate for the fears they have about their own. The great news? You don’t need to let someone else’s fears become yours too and rule your life.

So you think you’d like to explore your femme self but you have some apprehensions. You don’t know where to start. You’re afraid you might be judged. You feel like you might not relate to what you see other men do, so you think that maybe it’s not your thing.

If you would like to explore these parts of yourself with someone you can feel safe with, I welcome you. You are free to be who you are without fear that you will be mocked or judged. In fact, I explicitly state under femme/feminization on my interests page that, unlike the typical approach to “feminization”, I don’t do any femme play as a form of humiliation. Aside from my not seeing femme as anything to be degraded for, but as one way of being beautiful and sexy, I find it antithetical to Female Dominance.

I’m highly competent with this idea we call “gender” and the way in which it can be expressed. I have spent a lot of time both working with people who have unconventional ideas about their gender or don’t feel the identity they’ve been assigned applies to them, to having done a lot of thinking about the phenomenological and epistemological aspects of identity, including gender and sexuality, and how I personally feel about and relate to them.

My awareness extends from the commonly-understood constructs of “male”, “female”, “masculine”, “feminine”, “androgynous”, etc.; to the fusion of seemingly contradictory concepts like “boydyke” or “girlfag”; to gender not actually being a real thing.

If you see how others express their “feminine” or “femme” selves and you feel alienated, it’s important to know that “femme” is a range of expression. It doesn’t have to be done in stereotypical ways or with hyperfeminine clothing, as is commonly depicted in BDSM.

This means it doesn’t have to be:

  • You assuming a female persona. That is: men can wear lingerie, be sexy, be slutty, and NOT have to become “women” to do it. You can retain your identity as a male person and wear panties, stockings, bra, makeup, eyelashes, heels, etc. (Though it’s okay if you do want to be your “female” self.)
  • Include anything pink. Love red? White? Black? Blue? Gold? Your expression of femme can be any color you like.
  • Include anything frilly, lacey, with ribbons, or otherwise “cutesy”. This is what I mean by “hyperfeminine”. It sort of like taking stereotypically girly things and turning it up to 13. The effect is you looking like a doll or child or wedding cake. Again, if you genuinely like this, wonderful, but it’s not necessarily what femme looks or feels like to everyone. (In fact, it doesn’t for the vast majority of femme/female-identified people.)
  • A “full transformation”. Though some people want to spend hours transforming their appearance from head to toe, others just want to put on lipstick or panties or heels.

Here’s some images that depict a range of femme expression by men (or at least people who were likely assigned male at birth):

Expressing yourself in a femme way also doesn’t mean:

  • You’re confused about your identity as a man
  • You’re a “sissy”
  • You’re really a woman
  • You’re gay (panties or heels don’t make you gay, they make you pretty)
  • You’re “weak”
  • You deserve ridicule

How you explore your femme side can be as lighthearted or as deep as you want it to be. It can be the entire focus of our session or it can be almost a “non-issue”, like your hair or eye color. This means your femme expression can range from highly eroticized (you sexy slut in your pretty panties and garter belt) to devoid of intentional eroticism (you’re wearing panties, sure, but this is really about me tying you down until you can’t move a muscle).

Whatever feels good, I’d love to facilitate an experience for you!

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Pretty Boys and Sweet Sissies

I know you might feel shy. Embarrassed. Maybe even a little silly.

I assure you that you need not.

I know who you are…or who you’re hiding…or who you want to become.

You disrobe for Me.

I move closer to you and present you with a pair of silky smooth stockings or fishnets….

You pull them up, against your skin…

They feel soooo good.

Then, sexy panties glide up and gently nestle your most vulnerable parts.

I slide a pretty garter belt atop your hips…and we attach your stockings together…

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Would you like that? Would you like to be pretty for me? Would you like to look sexy for your Mistress?

Do you ache to be My pretty boy? My sweet sissy? My plaything? My slut?

Does it make your cock or clitty throb to know you’re pleasing your Mistress?

Get on your knees, My sweet sexy toy, and…

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Good boy…good girl…good slut.

pauletta serves Me all day

I hadn’t seen pauletta in a couple of years — and it was time to change that.

After agreeing that it would be fantastic for her to serve all day long, she hopped on a plane to Philly.

First, she had to prove herself worthy to serve by cleaning My floors.

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I think you missed a spot, bitch…

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She then graduated to serving My feet. (Which I enjoyed so much that I neglected to take any photographs.)

pauletta then had the privilege of taking Me to a lovely dinner.

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Once we returned, I demanded that pauletta strip and then restrained her on the cross.

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See how she thrusts her ass out for Me? Further, pauletta, further…show Me how much you ache for it…

pauletta had asked for the honor of being whipped by Me. Specifically, she had never been whipped hard and wanted to know what it was like.

After giving her a taste, it was time for one to remember…

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she shuddered and clung to the cross. I smiled.

I then moved her to My bench. It was time to have her truly earn her place.

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…and that she did.

A short excerpt from pauletta:

O/our session allowed me to let go of my ego! It was so much fun!!

You were so gracious, and generous, and fun last night.

… I can’t thank You enough.

Thank you, pauletta! What a lovely day I had with you!

 

A new slave who knows how to make an impression (and so do I)

sissy slave s scheduled an audience with Me this weekend and before the session he asked what from My wishlist I would most like. I told him what I most wanted was not on My list. I gave him an option of My top two things. I was impressed that, without hesitation, he selected the more expensive of the two. And he immediately sent this toward the gift:

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Like a good slave, he provided the remainder when he saw Me.

Now, for this scene, we played in another dungeon. This was a nice change of pace and allowed for some different options.

After having some fun with him on the cross, where I could see on his face how quickly I had him slipping under My spell, I moved My sissy bitch to the table, tightly tied him down, and continued the punishment he needed.

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There’s a lot I could detail here, about how I humiliated and degraded him, how I made him wimper and beg, and how I became excited when I thought he might be crying, but instead I’ll just leave you with a lovely shot of his red, swollen ass after I hit him with a few floggers, straps, a cane, and a handful of lashes from My single tail.

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He made a good impression on Me…so I made a good impression on him.

Afterward he sent Me this:

“I just want to say thank you for that wonderful session and for puting me in my place yesterday mistress. Hope to session with you again soon.”

Would you believe this slut is already asking for the date he can come back?

samantha comes for a visit

I hadn’t seen samantha for a while.

When she asked if she could come serve, I set aside some pretty lacy panties just for her. The panties were perfect for a gurl like her: they had access points for the parts of her I planned on using.

she moaned as I slid them up her thighs.

she moaned as I pulled her girlcock through the hole in the front.

she moaned as I grazed My fingers over her cunt through the hole in the back.

After tying her down and molesting her thoroughly, I put her over My bench, shoved a ball gag in her mouth, and rode her through her muffled moans as copious amounts of drool made its way out from behind the gag. You should have seen the mess she left.

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After she was reeling from My relentless pounding, I pulled down her panties and spanked her freshly fucked ass.

Over and over.

Until it was red and tender.

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You want to know what happened next?

Too bad! That’s for Me and samantha to remember…

Kidnapped and turned into a cock-sucking whore

I was greeted kindly at the door and W(w)e sat down and talked.

Mistress Tissa is beautiful in every way but not to be trifled with, I assure you.

When I wasn’t looking, Mistress gagged and hooded me from behind.

She then dragged me to the basement, stripped me, force feminized me…

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and turned me into Her Strap-On sucking little lesbian whore House bitch.

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It went on for 3 hours.

If you are a true sub Mistress Tissa is a dream come true.  * * * * !!!

I loved kidnapping this useless dick-wielding male and forcing him to become a her — what he should have been all along! He went from a business-suit-wearing bore to a sexy cock-hungry whore! And I mean HUNGRY. Whether she was on her knees, her back, or straddled on My bitch bench, this rent-a-cunt couldn’t get enough She-cock in both of her holes!