Training

Interested in receiving training from an authentic Mistress and professional Dominatrix?

I offer personalized training for individuals and couples in a wide variety of activities for submissives, slaves, bottoms, and/or fetishists. I typically do not train Dominants except in the case of a couple where the Dominant would like coaching from another Dominant about training their submissive. In these cases, the training must occur with both parties present. (The couple can be of any sex, gender, or sexual orientation.)

Knowing what kind of training is appropriate for you requires knowing what you are trying to accomplish. To put it simply:

If you want to learn how to be submissive, then you want submissive training.

If you want to learn how to be of service, then you want slave training.

If you want to learn how to experience an activity but do not want power exchange, then you want bottom training.

If it’s really about your specific fetishes around “training” rather than the actuality of what it looks like, you want fetishized or fantasy training.

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Here, my submissive is receiving punishment with his training.

Also important is understanding the “mood” you would like for your training. The mood can dramatically change the feeling. I can create training sessions which are fun and laid back all the way to strict and sadistic. Please note: I may not necessarily offer any combination of type of training and mood you are looking for.

I’m a natural educator and am adept in many activities, but I’m especially well suited for those wishing to be trained in:

MistressTissa_SubmissionAuthentic Submission. This involves the incorporation of my formal studies in psychology and philosophy (and spirituality, when mutually desired) to teach you what genuine submission is and how to find, express, and/or hone it within yourself. This can be sexy, challenging, fun, educational, and powerful. (Psst…it’s not really about just being on your knees.)

MistressTissa_SlaveBakesAuthentic Slavery. Like submissive training, I use my knowledge and skills in psychology and philosophy (and, again, any mutual interests in spirituality) to teach you what genuine slavery is and how to provide it. Long-term slaves will be trained in understanding the Path of Service, including self-awareness and self-improvement. slaves may also work toward self-actualization.

Femme Training. “Femme” is a distinct concept from “female”. I do not approach femme training assuming that you are or want to be female. You can identify as male, female, or something else and be trained to be femme. Training can include only dress, including how to best dress for your  version of femme, to the inclusion of makeup, mannerisms, and speaking. The most serious femmes can also train in the psychology of femme, femme integration, and femme as a tool for healing “toxic masculinity”.  Note: I do not offer femme training as a form of humiliation.

MistressTissa_SlutTrainingSlut Training. In my world, sluts are good things, and my approach to training reflects that. How, specifically, your training occurs depends on whether you’re a sub, slave, or fetishist; but regardless, you will learn to express your glorious inner slut. You do not have to assume a female persona to engage in this type of training. Men are and can be sluts, too!

 

 

If you would like to explore training with me, whether for one session, a handful of sessions, or over a long period of time, please complete the request form on my contact page. Be sure to include details about the type of training you wish to receive. If you omit the details and just ask for “training”, I will assume that you are coming to me as a slave, have no ego needs, and you would like me to 100% choose how I train you.

If you are interested in training but are not sure which is appropriate for you and your interests, I can help pinpoint what is likely the best fit for you. I can do this is two ways:

1. If you’re not certain you want to schedule a session, request a coaching session only.

2. If you know you’re interested in scheduling a session with me, then I recommend an extended session consultation. Please complete my session request form and indicate that you would like an extended consultation.

t2’s training continues

t2 contacted Me to ask Me if I was available to continue with his training.

Once he was before Me, I picked up where we left off.

I tested him in various ways.

He delighted Me with his excellent responses to many of My assessments.

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t2 is an outstanding submissive with a lot of potential.

After our session, he sent Me this:

“Mistress Tissa,
Thank You again for the session today. Your training is superb and Your insights into the lifestyle that You shared with me will be useful in my private life.
Best Regards,
t2″

Thank you, t2. I’m glad to hear this. The kind of kink which is practiced consciously and has the potential to transform us in broader, deeper levels is especially gratifying to Me.

Training t2

In My last session with t2, he did not properly execute a simple instruction: kiss My heels.

He started by kissing, but then he began licking.

Immediately, I pulled My heel away from his mouth.

“I DID NOT TELL YOU TO LICK.”

t2 apologized and I told him he needed to be trained.

He seemed eager for this.

So when he returned for his next session, I began his much needed training.

Part of which involved submission to My hands and floggers.

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Then, I offered him a chance to redeem himself.

Could he show Me he is able to follow directions and be a proper slave?

He assured Me he could.

I told him that I would give him another chance to kiss My heels if he took My single tail. (Something he had never done.)

He agreed.

He only made one mistake when kissing them.

Next time, he will make no mistakes.

Afterword, he sent Me this message:

“Mistress Tissa,
Thank You for the session yesterday. It was a learning experience.
I feel that I am being trained by a caring, very competent artisan of
the life-style.
Very Truly Yours,
(t2) “

 

The continued training of slave m

Dear Mistress Tissa:

i would like to begin by saying “thank You” for another amazing session.   As is always the case, O/our sessions are equally intense and enjoyable for me.  This one was no different.  i hope that You were pleased and satisfied with the way i served You on this day.

Thank You for the time You spent prior to O/our session, checking in with me on my well-being both emotionally and physically.  It is very satisfying to know that i am the devoted slave of a dominatrix who is not only highly skilled and knowledgeable in BDSM, but also cares very much about Her subs’ emotional and physical well-being.  It is very comforting to know that i am in the capable hands of a such a sincere practitioner of Her vocation.

As previously stated, O/our most recent session was extremely intense and equally enjoyable, with two different scenarios that took place where You beat my ass with various types of instruments of discipline.  At various times You used Your powerful hands…

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…two different new paddles that you were breaking in on me, (by the way, the wooden one stung the most), floggers, whips, and two wooden canes, were all harshly applied to my back, but mostly to my ass.

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As is always the case it was an extremely enjoyable experience for me being at the complete mercy of a beautiful and skilled Dominatrix.  But, what made it so much more satisfying was the fact that You took the time to continue my training on effectively accepting and enjoying the beating that You were administering.  And, i cannot thank You enough for the lessons You have taught me on being a more receptive pain slut for You.  Instructing me on being more receptive to the discipline You administer by focusing on accepting each blow as more of a sensation, instead of “just pain,” has helped me to more fully enjoy these pleasurable experiences to the fullest.  i was better able to stay in the moment and focus on accepting Your discipline as a sensation to  be enjoyed, as opposed to pain that simply must be endured.  Even the final three blows you administered to my ass with the very large cane were manageable, but more importantly, exciting and enjoyable.   This was mainly due to the clear and purposeful suggestions You gave me on managing and accepting the intensity of the situation.  When You asked me if i could handle the final three intense blows that You were planning to administer, i knew that i could, because at that point i was well trained on accepting each blow as a sensation to be appreciated and savored.  Your expertise in Domination is unparalleled in my opinion and something that i truly admire.

I cannot thank You enough Mistress Tissa for teaching me how to better accept and enjoy the pain/pleasure that You administer to me during O/our sessions, and

for being so patient with me as You train me to be a better slave to You, and

for applying those amazing “healing hands” of Yours to my most sore areas during O/our recent session, and

for helping me to come to the realization that i truly love submitting to any pain that You inflict on me during O/our sessions because i derive tremendous pleasure from experiencing that sensation, but more importantly (to me) because  of the pleasure it affords You, and

for being  such a beautiful and amazing Goddess and allowing me the privilege of worshipping You as a “devoted slave”.

Sincerely,

slave m

slave m neglected to mention that the entire context of our session was about allowing one’s self to enter deep levels of submission through certain activities. We have been exploring sensation processing and how it relates to submission.

Also, slave m continues to be generous with his compliments. I don’t think My expertise in Domination is “unparalleled”, but I do consider Myself an expert in power dynamics/exchange and the psychology thereof.

For the record: The photo of his reddened bottom is only after I had spanked and paddled it. The other implements came after I took him off My lap.

ask and ye shall receive, slave m

Early in my most recent session with Mistress Tissa, She reminded me that i had previously asked Her to tell me how i could better serve Her as Her slave.  Being slave to a True Goddess in Mistress Tissa is a position that i truly relish and naturally it is a responsibility that i want to continually improve upon.  To be able to serve Mistress Tissa in such a way that i am able to continually please Her is my ultimately goal.  That being said, i know it is my responsibility to try to continue to hone my skills as Her slave by not only always doing exactly what i am told in Her presence,  but also to strive to perfect the services She desires from me during a session.  i love trying to please Mistress Tissa and as i have stated in my previous writings, O/our session is only complete when Mistress Tissa closes out O/our sessions with the statement, “you have pleased me today slave m.”  It is always music to my ears.  Truth be told, i cannot remember a session ever ending where she did not compliment me for serving her well, so i am batting a thousand, with the internal goal of never dropping one point below that average.

So after reminding me that i had previously asked Her how i could serve Her better, She informed me as to how i was going to do exactly that during this particular session.  So what was expected of me during this session, which was not required of me during previous sessions?  i would be taught several slave positions. Before explaining what slave positions i would be taught, let me first emphasize that i am a student of an absolute master of BDSM.  i cannot imagine anyone being more knowledgeable in all aspects of BDSM than Mistress Tissa.  i am always amazed as to how knowledgeable, well-informed, thorough, and experienced Mistress Tissa is as a Dominatrix.  She is a brilliant Dominatrix.  When you are serving this amazing person, you are serving a true master.   i learned early on during my sessions with Mistress Tissa that i was at the mercy of a completely dominant and professional Dominatrix who had mastered Her craft extremely well.  Everything She does during a session is done to perfection*.

Now more on the slave positions that i learned from a Master Teacher.  The first position i learned was the “kneel” position. Slave position number two was “humble.”  Slave position number three was “discipline.”  For slave position number four i was commanded to get up off of the ground and to stand upright, legs spread, placing my arms over my head and locking them together.  This position was called “inspection.”  And, that is exactly what Mistress Tissa did for the next five minutes, She inspected my entire body.  At one point She even spread my ass cheeks apart inspecting my (actually Her) hole for possible future use.  Probably the only thing She did not inspect was my teeth, but She actually did that once before.  At my very first session with Mistress Tissa, She required that i stay on all fours for an extended period of time while She inspected my body and at one point even checked my teeth.  The only other person i can remember checking my teeth was my dental hygienist.  Like, i previously mentioned, She is extremely thorough.  But, now back to elaborating on my new slave positions.  Once i had learned my four new positions, i was required to quickly follow each of Mistress Tissa’s commands by getting into whichever position She required of me.  i followed as quickly and efficiently as possible.  The last command was the humble position.  In that position, Mistress Tissa prepared me for what was to come next.  She wrapped tape around the base of my scrotal sac, so that my balls were, well i guess you would say in a sack!  She then pulled my balls behind me and attached a “humbler” to the back of my thighs so that i was now unable to move and was pretty much at Her complete disposal.  i had never worn a humbler, pretty interesting invention to say the least!  Mistress Tissa also placed handcuffs on my wrists, and chained my legs together.  Finally She placed what i believe was a steel anal hook in my ass and connected it to the collar that i was now wearing around my neck.  Interestingly, i cannot remember wearing hand cuffs with Mistress Tissa, so that was somewhat of a new and different sensation.

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It was now time for my beating.  Mistress Tissa used several “instruments of torture” to paddle and whip my ass until it was sore and (probably) crimson in color.  Ironically, the most powerful and painful smack was administered with Her hands.  Mistress Tissa is incredible powerful, to say the least.  i could not even imagine what She could do to you if you ever crossed Her, not that I would even think about doing that.  After my beating had ended, i was permitted to move into one of my favorite positions, laying on my back at Her feet.

Mistress Tissa then placed Her beautiful heels on various parts of the front of my body, pressing down with Her feet ever so slightly.  First word that comes to mind, heaven!  She then brought Her heels to my face and told me first to kiss the long heel of Her shoe once and then the bottom of her shoe once.  As she held her shoe close to my face, Her command was simple and direct, “kiss.”   She did that with both of Her beautiful heels.  i waited until i was given the command to kiss before i took the liberty to do so.  i know better than to take any liberties with Mistress Tissa without Her complete consent.   At one point She crossed her legs and placed them on my chest.  After a minute or so, i stated the obvious, “i love to be Your foot rest.”   Mistress Tissa replied, “i like having you for a foot rest.”  Life is good!

The final command of the day then came from Mistress Tissa after she placed her feet in front of me as i stayed in the “humble” position in front of Her.  The command was to kiss the top of Her toes on each foot one time.  i did so with respect and reverence and loved this true honor!  Is there anything that could possibly be more fulfilling for a true slave then to be in a humble position in front of a true Goddess in Mistress Tissa and being allowed to kiss the tops of Her feet as a sign of my devotion to Her.  The answer to that question is NO!

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*slave m is being generous with his compliments. While I am knowledgeable and skilled, am I an “absolute” and “true master”? No. Do I complete everything with “perfection”? No. For some submissives and slaves I may be “perfect”. I think it’s because I possess something more than learned skills. What makes a Dominatrix special is more than how well She can tie you up and whip your ass. What makes Her special is Her essence.