New to Temenos: Kasina

My MindPlace Kasina arrived today:

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I decided to get the upgraded pack which included the Ganzframes (middle top). They have a silicone shield which is designed to keep all light out. I know this will be much more effective to reduce any visual distractions than the other frames, which look like dudebro sunglasses (right).

I would like to incorporate this device into sessions where someone is looking for (or open to) a different kind of head trip. The most obvious way would be to combine it with sensory play. That combined with the audio/visual elements of the device could help produce really HOT and powerful experiences.

I’m going to experiment with it Myself before I add it to My interests page and introduce it into a session.

UPDATE: I just tried one of the programs. It was to slow heart rate and breathing. Very cool! Really looking forward to checking all of them out — and making My own.

Beth’s 2nd visit

Beth came back for round two. This time for two hours.

Knowing what I had come to learn about her, I thought she’d enjoy more spanking. Not only for potential eroticism but also as something that could be therapeutic for her. So, I decided to give her a more immersive experience with it. I instructed her to lay across my lap and I gave her a thorough bare-handed spanking.

Then, of course, there was more tickling. Which has both of us literally rolling on the floor. She kept trying to writhe away from me…and I kept dragging her back. The laughter was infectious.

I then introduced her to flogging. Varying and building sensations. She surprised me with how much she took for her first time.

And, like that, two hours was up.

Later that evening, she sent me this email:

“I got home a little while ago and although I spent the entire car ride back trying to figure out how to thank you properly,  I am still at a loss for the right words.  
This has been a very rough month for me. My depression and anxiety have been unrelenting. I’ve had a constant tightness in my chest and all my nerve endings felt like they were on fire, everything hurt.  But then I came to see you and for some reason  by some miracle, you managed to quiet all the noise in my head and all I was thinking about or focused on was what was happening in that room today.  I felt safe and protected and cared for and I don’t know how to thank you for that.
I really appreciated everything you did today and I actually enjoyed it too. You make it easier to try to push my boundaries and try new things. I was so worried that last time was a fluke and I was afraid to believe in the positive things I felt afterward, because I didn’t want to be disappointed or let down. And then I came today and now I know it’s definitely not a fluke. I feel even more certain that you are going to be able to help me make the changes I need to make in my life, if you will allow me to keep coming back.  I trust you and would really like you to continue to guide me through this journey, if you are willing. 
Thank you so much Mistress.”
Then, the next day she shared:
“For the first time in a month, i slept soundly thru the night and didn’t feel exhausted when i woke up. And today, I’ve just been thinking of everything i felt and experienced yesterday. For two hours i didn’t feel broken or defective or afraid. I don’t know how you did that, but i am so, so grateful!”
A big grin took over my face when I read this. I am so happy for her!
I look forward to wherever we may go next time!

Article: Kinky Sex Could Be the Secret to Your Success

“Many successful visionaries throughout history, from artists to scientists and even politicians, have had well-documented kinks and fetishes that affected how they operated in their daily lives.

A wave of recent research has confirmed this: If it’s something you desire in the first place, kinky sex can benefit you not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well. “Unconventional” sexual practices and fantasies, such as BDSM, group sex, or role play, have been shown to reduce psychological stress, improve mental health and can help with satisfying and communicative relationships. Kinky people have also been found to have higher self-worth than those who are too afraid or ashamed to pursue their fantasies

People who engage in BDSM and kink have been found to be happier, more conscientious and less neurotic than people who don’t engage in so-called “deviant” sex. “

More confirmation of what many of us have known all along: kink is healthy and has tangible benefits.

Full article here: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12231118/how-kinky-sex-leads-to-career-success/ (worth the read)

Article: Can Bondage Play Reduce Anxiety?

“It feels like an opportunity to completely let go and to be completely present at the same time,” said Gorgone, a 22-year-old Shibari model who was tied up that night. “There’s a certain release from anxiety you get from it. Some people do it by drinking. They are looking for something that is going to take them away from themselves,” she said. With bondage, though, she said the high is also clearer and perceptions can become sharper — closer to a state of mindfulness than inebriation.

Although preliminary, there is growing scientific support for some of the BDSM community’s observations. In a study from 2013, researchers surveyed 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 “vanilla” people, asking them questions about their personality, relationships, attachment styles, and general well-being. Practitioners of bondage reported less neuroticism, a trait similar to anxiety, and more security in their relationships than people strictly into vanilla sex. Since this was a survey, it doesn’t show that BDSM activities caused these effects, but it does indicate that people who practice BDSM seem to be calmer and more comfortable in their relationship than people who don’t, lending some weight to the idea of a link.

Full article here: http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/02/can-bondage-reduce-anxiety.html