Need

I obscure your face with my hood

(who you are is of no relevance)

I take away your sight

(look deeply into the void)

And then

you wait for…

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…my laughter piercing the silence…

…the purr of my voice in your ears…

…my exquisite touch grazing your body…

you melt as I wrap my words and fingers and rope around you.

you are naked and restrained before me.

you feel so vulnerable and exposed.

And then

you tense against the impact.

But you don’t fight me

because you know this is what you need.

Each strike of my flogger pushes you — OUT

Of your shell.

Until

There is nothing between you and me.

 

You have never felt so free.

 

 

 

New to Temenos: Kasina

My MindPlace Kasina arrived today:

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I decided to get the upgraded pack which included the Ganzframes (middle top). They have a silicone shield which is designed to keep all light out. I know this will be much more effective to reduce any visual distractions than the other frames, which look like dudebro sunglasses (right).

I would like to incorporate this device into sessions where someone is looking for (or open to) a different kind of head trip. The most obvious way would be to combine it with sensory play. That combined with the audio/visual elements of the device could help produce really HOT and powerful experiences.

I’m going to experiment with it Myself before I add it to My interests page and introduce it into a session.

UPDATE: I just tried one of the programs. It was to slow heart rate and breathing. Very cool! Really looking forward to checking all of them out — and making My own.

Beth’s 2nd visit

Beth came back for round two. This time for two hours.

Knowing what I had come to learn about her, I thought she’d enjoy more spanking. Not only for potential eroticism but also as something that could be therapeutic for her. So, I decided to give her a more immersive experience with it. I instructed her to lay across my lap and I gave her a thorough bare-handed spanking.

Then, of course, there was more tickling. Which has both of us literally rolling on the floor. She kept trying to writhe away from me…and I kept dragging her back. The laughter was infectious.

I then introduced her to flogging. Varying and building sensations. She surprised me with how much she took for her first time.

And, like that, two hours was up.

Later that evening, she sent me this email:

“I got home a little while ago and although I spent the entire car ride back trying to figure out how to thank you properly,  I am still at a loss for the right words.  
This has been a very rough month for me. My depression and anxiety have been unrelenting. I’ve had a constant tightness in my chest and all my nerve endings felt like they were on fire, everything hurt.  But then I came to see you and for some reason  by some miracle, you managed to quiet all the noise in my head and all I was thinking about or focused on was what was happening in that room today.  I felt safe and protected and cared for and I don’t know how to thank you for that.
I really appreciated everything you did today and I actually enjoyed it too. You make it easier to try to push my boundaries and try new things. I was so worried that last time was a fluke and I was afraid to believe in the positive things I felt afterward, because I didn’t want to be disappointed or let down. And then I came today and now I know it’s definitely not a fluke. I feel even more certain that you are going to be able to help me make the changes I need to make in my life, if you will allow me to keep coming back.  I trust you and would really like you to continue to guide me through this journey, if you are willing. 
Thank you so much Mistress.”
Then, the next day she shared:
“For the first time in a month, i slept soundly thru the night and didn’t feel exhausted when i woke up. And today, I’ve just been thinking of everything i felt and experienced yesterday. For two hours i didn’t feel broken or defective or afraid. I don’t know how you did that, but i am so, so grateful!”
A big grin took over my face when I read this. I am so happy for her!
I look forward to wherever we may go next time!

Article: Kinky Sex Could Be the Secret to Your Success

“Many successful visionaries throughout history, from artists to scientists and even politicians, have had well-documented kinks and fetishes that affected how they operated in their daily lives.

A wave of recent research has confirmed this: If it’s something you desire in the first place, kinky sex can benefit you not just in the bedroom, but outside of it as well. “Unconventional” sexual practices and fantasies, such as BDSM, group sex, or role play, have been shown to reduce psychological stress, improve mental health and can help with satisfying and communicative relationships. Kinky people have also been found to have higher self-worth than those who are too afraid or ashamed to pursue their fantasies

People who engage in BDSM and kink have been found to be happier, more conscientious and less neurotic than people who don’t engage in so-called “deviant” sex. “

More confirmation of what many of us have known all along: kink is healthy and has tangible benefits.

Full article here: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12231118/how-kinky-sex-leads-to-career-success/ (worth the read)

Meeting Heather

One of My favorite things about being a Dominatrix is offering a space for people to be themselves without fear of being judged. I believe feeling safe to be one’s self is essential to people’s well-being – emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. So, when people come to Me believing that I am someone who they can feel safe with, I feel deeply honored.

This month I had an especially gratifying experience offering a much needed safe space to an absolutely lovely femme, Heather. She had been repressing some fundamental aspects of herself, like many of us do at some point in our lives. But, after bringing her back from an impulse to cancel, which I believed was coming from fear and not a change of heart, she came to Me for her very first session with a Dominatrix.

Sometimes what I imagine a session might be like is not quite how it ends up being. This was one of those sessions. When I had her stand in front of Me, the bottled-up emotion was palpable. It only took the slightest touch and a few carefully chosen words to feel her tremble and sigh, “that feels incredible”. There was a lot in there that I sensed wanted out. I knew this session was not going to go as I planned.

I decided to scrap the bulk of what I had envisioned and use the Zen approach. The next two hours encompassed dressing, introspection, makeup, confessions, bondage,  discovery, spanking, and back again. The mood moved from casual, to sensual, to poignant, to very sexy. It was one of those sessions that leaves Me feeling especially energized and reminds Me that I’m doing important work.

The next day, I received this email:

Thank you very much for our conversation yesterday.

i loved my experience and will be reaching back to you

I sent you a “thank you” gift …

You brought out the real me  – and it felt good.

Thank you

Heather

Her generous gift came next:

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Thank you, Heather!! I was a delight meeting and playing with you!

Cleansing Luke

Luke needed another attitude adjustment. And I was just the person to give it.

Thorough discipline. Physically, mentally, emotionally.

Total Dominance. Mind, body, and soul.

Then, he needed to be tied…

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…in a configuration befitting the sacrifice of body and mind for his greater good.

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His legs were bound next.

Then, a final “lesson”, which I’m sure will stick with him for a very long time: cleansing through dehumanization.

When we emerged from My Temenos, it was clear a shift had indeed taken place.


During this visit, he offered this lovely card and gift:

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Then, later sent these very thoughtful and kind words:

Forgive me, but I am having trouble putting into words how incredible our session was. … I will take this moment to thank You for Your aftercare patience, as You clearly sensed I was a bit off-kilter – and stunned by even being off-kilter. I still am…but please bear with me, as I feel compelled to capture and express this “moment”, as it were.

Our first session was mind-blowing. And frankly, I came into today thinking about proving how much more I could take (to whom, I don’t know…). Anyway, You changed all of that very quickly. First, I was not at all prepared for the weaknesses You extracted from me. As I started to reflect… the dynamics of the session took a very sharp turn, and I was completely disarmed. I fell into subspace quite early, which is a slight surprise, but I guess we both already know You can that to me.

However, what happened in the last 30 minutes of our session was completely unprecedented. I’d [highlighted] an abstract picture of “ego death”…a while ago. It seemed like a great ‘stretch goal’, as the corporate types are wont to say. I never contemplated that You could bring this upon me in one session, let alone our very next session.

It makes me reflect upon what is so very unique about You. You are intimidatingly cerebral, as I mentioned…yet…unexpectedly intuitive – a terribly potent combination. Moreover, to use a word I offered in session, You are truly authentic.

Today, You took me to unfamiliar places. You dangled me there, right on the edge of submission and panic, over and over again. Yet you never caused me to want or need to safeword. Somehow, through 90 minutes, You taught me both submission and trust, as every time I felt I couldn’t take any more, it was Your hand that picked me back up.

And then, the final 30 minutes.

The cynical, obsessively analytical part of me desperately wants to understand what happened. What I can recall was that you tied me like an object, and I’ve never before felt so helpless. I was also stunned at your strength…. But the main thing I recall – and it is reminiscent of our first mind-blowing session – is Your relentlessness. Every time I thought it was over – that I had survived, or that You were satisfied – You came back for more. Every time I tried to piece things together, You came and shattered the puzzle anew. I was completely at Your mercy, physically and emotionally, and then…everything…just…slowed down…

…such that by the time [the session was ending], I feel like I was finally sipping from that Holy Grail we subs call being “broken”. Yet…I didn’t feel at all damaged. I felt – oddly – in a state of nearly perfect peace. I lay there, nearly devoid of thought, taking in Your words and Your dominance, accepting them with no resistance. Even as You thoughtfully brought me back from subspace, I was having trouble distinguishing Your words from my own thoughts. It was truly disorienting, in a way that I have never before experienced.

Again, I thank You for everything – for Your thoughtfulness and professionalism and the trust these engender, for Your intellect, intuition, and intensity, and for allowing me to again be a canvas for your indelible signature.

Thank you, Luke!! You are a joy.

Article: Can Bondage Play Reduce Anxiety?

“It feels like an opportunity to completely let go and to be completely present at the same time,” said Gorgone, a 22-year-old Shibari model who was tied up that night. “There’s a certain release from anxiety you get from it. Some people do it by drinking. They are looking for something that is going to take them away from themselves,” she said. With bondage, though, she said the high is also clearer and perceptions can become sharper — closer to a state of mindfulness than inebriation.

Although preliminary, there is growing scientific support for some of the BDSM community’s observations. In a study from 2013, researchers surveyed 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 “vanilla” people, asking them questions about their personality, relationships, attachment styles, and general well-being. Practitioners of bondage reported less neuroticism, a trait similar to anxiety, and more security in their relationships than people strictly into vanilla sex. Since this was a survey, it doesn’t show that BDSM activities caused these effects, but it does indicate that people who practice BDSM seem to be calmer and more comfortable in their relationship than people who don’t, lending some weight to the idea of a link.

Full article here: http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/02/can-bondage-reduce-anxiety.html

Mistress Tissa: Dominatrix

Philadelphia Dominatrix Mistress Tissa

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With beauty, intelligence, charm, strength of character, and a very palpable Alpha energy, I am a natural Dominatrix.

My ability to enchant and captivate you comes effortlessly to Me. I take great delight in seducing you to your knees, both literally and figuratively. You will feel My unique personality, style, and energy from the way I speak to the way I look in your eyes.

As a highly skilled practitioner of the Erotic Arts, I understand how to craft experiences which engage more than your most superficial parts. This means that what I offer is beyond mere entry-level enticement, but something with the kind of depth and awareness which not only inspires respect from you, but also in turn offers you the respect needed to know you can fully trust Me and lose yourself in our time together.

Having a special aptitude for the human mind and behavior, as well as an educational and professional background in psychology, I just might know you better than you know yourself. This may frighten you…but it also may facilitate your liberation. My brand of eroticism can be a simple and satisfying outlet for your fetishes, but it also has the potential to transform.

 

 

t2’s training continues

t2 contacted Me to ask Me if I was available to continue with his training.

Once he was before Me, I picked up where we left off.

I tested him in various ways.

He delighted Me with his excellent responses to many of My assessments.

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t2 is an outstanding submissive with a lot of potential.

After our session, he sent Me this:

“Mistress Tissa,
Thank You again for the session today. Your training is superb and Your insights into the lifestyle that You shared with me will be useful in my private life.
Best Regards,
t2″

Thank you, t2. I’m glad to hear this. The kind of kink which is practiced consciously and has the potential to transform us in broader, deeper levels is especially gratifying to Me.

Article: BDSM as Harm Reduction

“As I’ve indicated in a number of other articles, recent robust research has found no correlation between BDSM and pathology, and indeed the research that attempted to connect BDSM to trauma often had underlying deeply flawed and biased methodologies, such as cherry picking respondents and only using a small number of subjects (one study only had three).

For a distinct population however, BDSM may serve as both a healing and harm reduction approach to trauma and emotional pain. … Research shows that not only is BDSM not pathological, but it can also be used in a therapeutic sense, both in trauma healing and for some, as a harm reduction approach.”

Full article is here: “BDSM as Harm Reduction” Aaron, M., PhD. (2016, October 13)